Hey,

Right I have a problem that I have never experienced before, so I have come on this forum to seek advice from others that have. Basically, I have two girls that I have been seeing.....one for about 2months and another about a month. I has got to the point now where I have slept with both of them and both regularly phone me and want to hang out. Ultimately they both have there merits, however I am in that fork in the road........one girl is a relationship type, kind, caring and fun to be with. The other is a wild card, more fun to be with than the other girl, very adventurous but doesn't want anything serious. I am moving away in 2 months, and in the back of my mind I am thinking, do I want a serious relationship when I am moving away or should I go for the wild card? If I am honest I really dont know what I want.......when I talk to one of them I think yeh she is the one, but when I talk to the other I think the same. How do you guys make ur decisions when things are so close between girls?

I also have this fear of upsetting one of them......both there families and friends know about me........and I dont have the heart to tell either one because I know I will have to hurt one of them. Any tips or opinions on this 'fear' and how to overcome it?

Cheers

No.FX

why cant you have both?

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Good question.......i don't really have a proper answer other than.....things have gone on for so long that both girls are looking for an answer....they are both aware of each other and see me as a prize.....if there is no prize i.e I will see them both I am not sure things will last long and I will probably loose them both.

Well if your looking to settle down for a bit I would go with the first girl. Its always nice to try and see how different things work out. You can also try to be truthful and say "Im not ready for anything really serious yet.

I also remember reading that its better to have the first 3 months as a trial period where basically by the time 3 months comes along u might find new characteristics of her that you dont actually like. I know this was the case with me.

Peace

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Go with the caring girlfriend type and ditch the wild card. She gonna hurt you anyways.

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Ahead of my time, like I live my whole life backwards.

but she'll be more fun until them.


and if you're moving away soon, why would you want the 'stable' relationship when its gonna be destroyed by you leaving anyway?

stick with both until after you leave.

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Which one has the biggest breasts?

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It seems like you have already answered your own question mate. If you're leaving in two months then there is no point in getting into anything serious. Either go the wildcard or have both on less serious terms and just explain that even if you did want more it would be unethical to start a relationship that you would have to end in sixty days anyway.