Okay so the only reason I got into this community was because my ex left me and moved on and I was all in the dumps, and learning about and how to pick up women kind of got me through the phase of depression/denial to where I'm at now, having a good time and enjoying myself.

So it's been 6 months since out breakup and my ex got dumped by her rebound and now she's going to the same mutual friend's party tonight at a club.

I want to sarge her, but above all I want to work towards another relationship with her. Any advice boys?

Well I'm new here, but first let me start by saying you're not alone. I think most all of us have gone through this stage in our lives before. Also, kudos for you for coming here; it shows you're willing to improve yourself and put your best foot forward.

In my opinion (though I am new here, I hope someone with more experience will chime in) you should stop worrying about your ex girlfriend, and start living your life.

I understand you care for her, but the thing that seems most counter productive is what you should be doing, if in fact you do want her back. You should go to that party, but not for her. Socialize with a smile, be the life of the party and have a pleasant presence. You may not build immediate attraction with her, but it will be difficult for her to think anything negative, and you will leave her with a great impression. If she talks to you, be kind and inviting but don't bend over backwards. The mindset should be "we had a good relationship together, it ended, but there are no hard feelings from me. I've moved on, and I have a lot to offer someone who wants it."

Ambition, leadership, decisiveness, and social skills are all qualities women find attractive, and you can't go wrong by taking that simple step.

And by the way, look and smell your best


Good luck. Please keep us updated.

For someone new here, you are very wise.... I concur with this fellow PUA. And if you want to get her attracted again, you have to go back and think about what attracted her in the first place.

But seriously... think twice before 'sarging' your ex, expand your horison, date/fuck-ten-other-woman and see if she's still THAT special, sure you have a history together, but why cut yourself short, there might be a woman out there that could make you 100x more happier than your ex ever could.

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great advice learnandgrow....
You've got to get her out of your head and even seeing her at the party will set you back so don't so it.