So had a first date last night, with a girl I met through eHarmony. Things went well, I think... my only doubt on the date is that she went to the bathroom at one point and came back out saying it was getting late and asked if I wanted to leave. I was thinking about that anyway just to keep from dragging things out, but I kind of feel like she got the drop on me there and it made me wonder if she was just getting bored with me. (Which is probably the effect we're going for when we end the date early on them of course!)

She said I should call or email her too, so figure she probably is interested.

Today I get an email from her basically just saying she had fun, and thanking me for taking her out.

So now not sure how to reply? I don't want to make plans again right away and appear needy, or do it over email. I also don't want to come off sounding like I don't want to see her again because I don't mention getting together.

Any thoughts?

do you have her mobile? texting her is the next stage up from email.

try texting "im going to starbucks tommorrow would you like to join me for a cup of something wonderful and a stimulating conversation? talk to me....x"

I agree with the guy above me because that sounds like a comfortable invitation,

Again remember that its always good to invite a girl to come along with you, so there is no pressure as if you aren't going to go if she doesn't come along. By phrasing it like, I am going to starbucks, care to join me? you eliminate the pressure and actually increase your chances of her coming with you.

Men are the ones who invite women into THEIR realities, not vice versa.
That's a good thing.

I can understand that you don't want to do anything wrong, and I had that mindset for the longest time, but I do think it stems from scarcity with women.

I have literally met a girl, got her number, invited her to hang out.

ALL IN THE SAME DAY

Did I come off needy? No. Why? Because I'm NOT needy.

If your not needy, you can't come off needy.
Thinking like this is needy. Just don't worry so much. It will either work out or not, if it doesn't who cares. Just be totally real with her and yourself. No gimmicks, No pick up crap. You met her online, if you like her, ask her out again when you want, and just hang out with her, no worries, no expectations, just have fun.

Leave it at that, just have fun.

I've learned that even though many guys on here have guidelines for how the talk, or act, or ask a girl out or when they do it is all a bunch of crap. It's good for beginners but just because you call a girl even all the time won't matter if:

1) You have tons of girls your talking to.
2) You are a self-fulfilled person.
3) Understand your own value and are always present in the moment enjoying yourself and being the leader of the social situation.

You could call a girl talk to her as many times as you want. I will text, call, talk to online, do whatever I feel like and I never even think twice about whether it is desperate or needy because I don't really care what happens with these girls, they just another pretty face to me.

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Ahead of my time, like I live my whole life backwards.

Ok... the only problem is that I actually am needy.


Emailing her back now then. Thanks guys!

Just don't let your responses convey that you are needy. keep it fun and light with a little mystery so she will feel like she 'needs' you.