So i asked her to go out for lunch on a certain day, and she said she was busy, but suggested another day and time. me being a newbie, i was like ok sure we can do that.. i am thinking i should not have done that. should i tell her i can't get off work and try to change the time again?

Maybe she was busy, it sounds like she is interested since she suggested a date and time and did not just try to blow you off. If your free I say do it and don't change the date and time that will piss her off in my opinion.

do you think lunch is too friendly? maybe i could try changing it to dinner?

Or maybe you could take her on a non-cliched and exciting day 2

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you could at least throw me some suggestions. i am trying here.

To your original question, I would say it does not matter as long as you can meet with her without appearing too needy. When a girl say I can't make it this day bu suggest another day, I take it as a IOI. So don't worry about that.

Dinner is a bad idea when it comes to first meeting. Lunch is perfect. You want it to be low pressure for her. Perhaps could you take her to some activity like shopping after. I you know a good flea market, this is an interesting place to hang out too.

Don't make it too formal, make sure you guys have fun... and escalate!

Good luck!

Sixkiller

How do I escalate if I have known her for a while and haven't really escalated at all already? I don't want it to seem unnatural. I am thinking I just gotta go for it and say "fuck it."