I was out Saturday night and ran into an ex of mine. We’ve been texting off and on for the past few weeks. Anyway we hung out for a bit and made plans to hand out the next day. So yesterday she comes over to my place and we chill and watch a movie. We were lying on my couch together on top of one another and cuddling and what not. So I go in for the kiss and get completely denied. I mean she didn’t turn away or anything but it was just the really cold closed mouth tight kind of kiss. She left a little later and I got a text later one saying that she likes hanging with me but it’s probably not a good idea to hook up. Deep down I know she is right and I told her I agreed but sill it’s a blow to the ego.

Ok so what the hell happened? I haven’t been LJB’D in a long time! Why would she be laying on me and all that stuff and then not kiss back? She is probably getting sex from somebody else or she just doesn’t want to go down that road with me again. It was a very emotionally charged relationship with lots of drama.

I know hanging out with an ex is not a good idea but it’s been hard for me to put this one completely behind me. Any ideas of what is going on, or how to proceed?

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~Carmo~

It could be probably here 2 things:
1. She wants only a friend
2. She wants to get back with you
Now the question is...what do you want? Do you want to get her back?

Friends with benefits would be nice. She is a bit of a freak so I am not trying to be in a serious monogamous relationship with her again. I just would like to know why she doesn’t want to hook up. Is it because she doesn’t want to open up that can of worms again or because she doesn’t find me attractive. I definitely feel like I have been attractive around her i.e. cocky funny, ball busting, not accepting bad behavior, high value, social proof, etc. I know she has a big crush on this other guy but I don’t think they are fucking right now. It’s just weird that she will lay one me and all that for a long time but not want to escalate. Maybe she is just using me for emotional comfort…

Either way my frustration is deserved in this case because I know better to get involved with her again but for some reason I cant help myself.

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~Carmo~

Don't listen to that nonsense, go in for the kiss again and break down her ASD; if she didn't want you she would flat out tell you NO. You know what to do, do it.

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Aren't you answering all your own answers?

Grab some balls. Just because some girl doesn't want to kiss you doesn't mean that you're unattractive or unlikable. She's got her own life to take care of and she knows you well enough. She's eyeballing another relationship and it takes a particular type of girl to be down with a "FB relationship" as the sex-love thing is a much more emotionally charged experience to women that it is for men.

I totally agree.
You should take some action.
If you do nothing, then nothing will happen.
Try and succed!
Good luck!

Thanks for the advice guys, I appreciate it. I know that when we were hanging out on Sunday she was pretty hung over and I can tell from the way she was talking about the previous few nights that some shit happened, meaning she probably fucked some guy so her ASD might have been on full alert, plus the hung over thing is never good.

I'm going to focus on some new girls i've met and let it run its course. If I see her out again I will shoot for a same night lay and keep it at that.

I agree that it takes a "special girl" for the fuck buddy thing but I think she qualifies. She was fucking her ex while I was dating her which is why I ended it with her to begin with. It would be easier if she wasn't so hot and I could just permanetley next her.

~Carmo~

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