Hey everyone, I'm pretty new to this whole pick up community thing and I've been trying out some stuff. I've been browsing a lot of posts and can't really find anything for my situation. I've had 7 girlfriends in my 22 years, one very long term (a year and a half) and it ended about 6 months ago. I'm not hung up on it, it ended because it got absolutely horrible, I'm not hung up on one girl like some people, I don't really have any approach anxiety in me. I'm fine talking to girls. I just don't seem to get much attention from girls since i've been out of the relationship. I also have a tendancy to romanticise and put women on a pedestal as conquests etc.

I am sometimes full of confidence, sometimes quite shy, but my confidence is getting seriously damaged cause I haven't got a girl in a few months, and I can feel it in my head, I think "whats he got that I don't" kinda feelings and I really hate it. I'm just wondering what do I do, I try and just be myself, I'm a long haired, cool guy, I play in a rock band, am in 2nd year at University doing an awesome course, I'm just struggling with women! I want a girlfriend, I want long conversations into the night, I want someone to care for me, but you know I'm happy to fuck around until that comes. I just want to know what I should do, what I'm doing wrong, and if you think I should or shouldn't have problems with women?

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apologies if this comes across as a rant, I'd just like some advice and really appreciate it! Cheers!

Hey man,

The answer is really simple - you need to approach girls. You said you don't have approach anxiety (which is actually the easiest part of the game) so that's great, you just gotta find what is your sticking point that causes girls not to pay attention to you. Maybe it's you not showing much manhood or maybe it is that you give off the wrong vibe? I can't really know. You are the one who supposed to find this out when you go out and ask yourself "What did I do wrong?" or "What just happened?", you see pick-up is about knowing yourself and getting better knowing what are your flaws. there is no shame of being rejected, you only learn from it for the next times. Now, I can give you the "just be confident" and "just be yourself" advices but it's stupid. However, you will gain your confidence back while approaching girls, slowly you'll start getting the momentum and your confidence regarding of you being a man.

Just go out there.

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Okay thanks very much for the response, yeah I guess I gotta ask myself some deep questions you know and get myself out there. Its gonna be a hard journey bu I really need to do this!

thanks