HB9.5
Playing hard to get.
I need tips with this.


She says not to like her because "I'm not nice." (Refering to herself not me.)
I said for her to not like me either lol.

I help. I tried to keep it short. If you need more details, ask!

PLAYING HARD TO GET > HELP PLEASE

I think it depends on events leading up to this. Was she giving IOIs? Were you able to elicit any qualifying?

If she sat their silent while you talked for 5 minutes and then said "dont like me, I'm not nice"... then that's different than if she spit out 5 minutes of stuff about herself and then said that.

My thoughts, and im a newbie so take it with a grain of salt... is that she's indicating the situation is not much of a chase for her (depends a lot on her body language). As a 9.5 shes used to guys fawning over her, so don't do that. Saying to her "dont like me either" sounds like you're hitting on her more, unless you have a clever reason. I'd be interested to see what would have happened if you just shrugged, said "ok" and walked away.

Come up with a way to push her away a bit... for example, if in the future you find yourself out with her and her friends again... talk to them instead of her, keeping your side turned to her or something. If she tries to talk to you, maybe neg to get her to start to chase you.... "I thought you told me to stay away from you?". By capturing the attention of her friends too, the status will help attract her more.

I don't know if this helps. I'm curious what others think. I'm trying to piece together a solid game myself.

I would have probably played a freeze out here. If you'd lost her, you'd lost her but if she was playing hard to get she'd have chased you and the position of power would have been stacked in your favour. You could keep pretending to freeze her out BECAUSE she said you should.

Remember though, that sometimes, you don't win. Everyone gets rejected sometimes and there is no shame in that whatsoever. It's not a failure - the only time you fail is when you don't even bother to open. You're still better than 95% of guys because you had the balls to say hello.

Thanks for the tips and input!

And it kinda got misconstrued because I am getting definite IOI's and as of tonight I'm definitely in there! I just didn't really know what to say in that situation!

Thanks though!