I wanna be that guy. I tend to smile a lot, and walk like a guy who has confidence and whatnot, but really, when I begin to socialize with other people, I realize how im NOT the fun guy, or generally a guy who you want to hang out with. So yeah, I really need some advice on this.

It's a life-long problem of mine too. I think a lot of it has to do with being a leader. Most people don't like to think for themselves and prefer to follow someone who acts like they know what they're doing. Whether they actually do or not is often irrelevant.

Ok dudes. You dont only need to be confident and smile. Thats basic stuff that you need but in order to get to the point you wanna be you gotta put more effort into it.

You need to be more:

Talkative
Energic
Fun (humor)
Happy
Crazy
Out of the ordinary
Larger than life
Friendly

And you need to share this with everybody.

Take any random scene from a movie with a cool guy. What stops you from being that guy? Only your inner mental blocks. The way that you do not go out of your comfort zone. If you can do that then you are well on your way.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Love yourself first before you are going to look for other people for validation. Why would people hang around with you if you don't like hanging around yourself in the first place.

Yeah, I used pick-up with the main goal other people would like me.
Turned out that nobody really cared about my success with women, so I was left with an empty hole. I didnt know about this at the time

Then I read power of the now and it all made sense. I think it's a book every pua should read.

those are my 2 cents.


But to be more on-topic

take some comedy classes if you're completely clueless on humour.
Also share value, don't take it. Don't act needy around people for attentention, you give attention and then you shift it towards you.
Follow your own path and don't care about who follows. If i want to go to get some food and my friends don't then I'll go alone and meet up with them later.
I've got no problem with that and neither do my friends.

There are many ways to accomplish what you want, I guess the main point is vibe with everyone you meet, be social.