Alright, well I have this problem that whenever I like this person, mind you im 15, I always feel embaressed to say that I show interest in her. I'll never ask anyone out or flirt with them, I dont know why, I guess i feel that they will feel that i have interest in her, but thats so stupid because thats what im trying to do. So I guess my factor is that im scared of being successful. So I REALLY need some help on this guys.

There's only one way to tackle your fears, and that's head on. You might be freaked out right now at the thought of telling a girl you like her, but trust me you need to do it. You'll see that its nothing to be scared of, everything gets alot easier after you've done it a few times.

The longer you prolong your fear, the more anxiety and stress you will cause yourself. I was never confident of women, always scared until I was about 16. I'm just turning 18 in about a month.

Finally gained some self-confidence and now I feel great about myself and I love women!

Hi Maschi, could I ask what you parents attitude is to girls and sex. Is it a subject they are open about?

Would you feel comfortable bringing a girl home and introducing her to your family?

I was too, till I tried it and figured out it worked.


Saying something isnt for you without even trying it out is like going to the ocean and say yeah thats not for me without even taking a dive


TAKE A DIVE

nothing will happen.


lol

life is like a cripple person, sometimes it walks funny

There is nothing I can say that can give you a "course of action" that will definately lead you to exactly where you need to be. But I can get you started and thats the most difficult point.

People here always say, just do it and that is easy to say and difficult to do.

That is more or less what Im gonna say as well but in a more constructive way.

It is a decision. If you can make the right decision you can go as far as it is possible for a man to go and if you make the wrong one you will never pass this threshold.

Decide: Is breaking this block more important to you than maintaining your dignity?

If it is then welcome, if your dignity is still a lame excuse for not doing difficult things then it will be very difficult for you man.

What I am offering you here is not just gonna be useful in game. It is a life lesson, a mindset that will help you!

Do not let you pride hold you back, do not be afraid to fail!

And how to get started, once you have decided that you wanna go for it. Select a scenario that does not matter at all. Like a really ugly girl that you think stinks and is an evil little creature as well. So, get it she has NO value to you, it does not matter in the least. Probably you are never gonna meet her again.

Go in to the situation with the intention to fail as badly as you can. Live your absolute worst case scenario. You will see that since you dont care it is not so bad. You have learned that failing is not the end of the world. You can just brush it off and never think about it again.

Go out there and fail man! It will become easier and easier!

Ezo

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

There are a thousand different ways to run it but the point of the game is that you DON'T really show interest in her as in "I really want you to be my girlfriend." The point of the early stages of game(especially at your age) is to reduce her jitteriness of the topic which will in turn reduce yours . . .

MUST you be boyfriend/girlfriends to go out on Saturday night? Must you be boyfriend/girlfriends to go to the park together? The initial entry to spending time together is just a simple offering for fun. Many girls your age will instinctively go, "OK, but only as friends right?" - Your answer, "Yeah OK whatever . . . I'll pick you up at 7"

When you are together, you can explore this 'relationship' further. You want the girl to be able to tell her friends, "I don't know . . . we just clicked! It just happened!" - Translation: "Hey, I'm no man hunter. I'm no slut. He started it. . . we just clicked."

At your age, learn to make girls comfortable. Accept that there is no such thing as a verbal confirmation of "boyfriend/girlfriend" prior to spending time together and emotionally charging her with feelings for you. This takes patience and practice. You can't just press a button and make her fall madly in love with you (or more accurately, demonstrate her attraction for you) You need to learn to carve an easy but compelling path for her to do this.

Girls are going to reject you, but here's the secret. They don't want to. They're out there looking for a guy that impresses them and gives them an exciting time. And you can be that guy.

My question is do you have any girls that are friends at all. I know that guys here balk at the dreaded friend zone and that is an issue certainly. But one of the first steps I think is becoming comfertable around people of the opposite sex is being friends with them. And I think the best way you can acheive that is by just trying to make friends first.

If you already have friends that are girls and are just having trouble bringing it to the next level, than there is a ton of advice here about how to kino escalate etc.

But I think what is paramount here is that first you feel comfertable interacting with girls period. I can't count how many guys I've rejected because they just seemed intimidated by me, and weren't willing to even interact in a way that I would with my friends, let alone with a potential dating partner.

I know a lot of people here my disagree with me, and warn you about the friend-zone. but I say if you can't even get there than there is no way in hell that you're going to be getting into the dating zone. And that's a true story.