Sorry for the length of this...

Last week I was flying back up to school and coincidentally this girl I know was only my flight. We talked for a while before we boarding and once we got on, I asked the person she was sitting next to to switch with me.

Wasn't really expecting much however things went pretty well. Great conversation, she was constantly laughing at w/e I said, a lot of kino (from her as well). Had a bunch of things in common and what not... it was actually a "fun" plane ride b/c of how well things seemed to have gone. We wind up splitting a taxi back to school and chit chat and flirt some more. Then parted ways for the night.

A few hours later I decide hey I got some momentum with this chick lets see where this can go. I shoot her a text and banter a bit... she's eating it up. I figure fuck it (which may have been my first mistake, jumping the gun) I suggested I go to her room to watch a DVD we had talked about earlier. She said she was going to hang out with friends but asked me if I wanted to meet her so she could give me the DVDs. I then made it clear I wanted to watch them with her and she said she's going to see her friends but once again offered me the DVDs so I just said nevermind. K w/e.

I don't see her much since she's pledging but the few times I do we make EC from across the dining hall and she'd give me some kind of cute face and I'd just smile at her. Then I'd just go about my business.

A few days later I decide to invite her to my formal. She responds via text "aww you're so cute" (I guess cause of the way I asked) and said she'd have to ask her pledge master (since she's pledging) so I said arite let me know. I text her the next day asking what happened and she said she didn't see her PM that night and would definitely let me know the next day. Then my friend who setup formal asked me (again) if I was bringing a date so I told him the deal. He offered to talk to her PM. I asked her if she wanted my friend to just ask about it so
she didn't have to and she responds with...

"I'm sorry, I don't wanna make you wait for me so if u want u can ask someone else, and its going to be our last wknd pledging and the people who got invited to formal aren't going so we could spend it together. Thank u so much for inviting me tho I really appreciate it u're the best " I was fairly disappointed so I just responded with Arite.

Saw her the next day next day (I was fuckin hungover) I tell her she laughs makes eye contact. See her again, eye contact, she comes up to me I make her laugh, we get on bus and I talk to other people.

This is the first girl thats presented any type of challenge for me since I got to college. I dig her and definitely want to try to close this (I am gaming other girls) Seemed like there was attraction and interest but with that formal situation I don't know. I'm not sure how to handle this now? Maybe freeze out for a few days and slowly work back into it with much less effort on my part? Just ignore it w/o a freeze out and keep gaming? Just straight up next her? Not sure guys. Help? Thanks!

She likes you that's the impression I'm getting. How often have you guys hung out since the DVD, at all. Texting and online game is no substitute for building kino in person. My solution text a time where you can hang out in person and after that don't text/ communicate electronically for a while. Nothing is more desperate than a lot of emails messages and it's much harder to come across as YOU through the internet, which is who she is attracted to.

In sum, I say:

Try and hang out with her soon, but cool off with the texts and emails. Since SHE's invited you to do something she's obviously interested. I'm assuming she doesn't want to go to prom with you because she's really can't not because she's not interested. From you're post it was a little unclear.

Consentrate on other girls and start losing your attention in her. When she pokes and prodes for your attention resume with what you were doing in the first place to get her interest.

Once you get her interest again and you guys are in the moment having fun together again then do what you should have done the first time around but weren't man enough to do and you should know what Im talking about.

This girl was not looking for a boyfriend (at least not upfront) she was looking for a man to sweep her off her feet and bang the ever living shit out of her. Instead she got a guy that seemed to insist that she act like a slut in order to get laid and since she didn't want to have to be the one to lead the situation you got left out in the cold. Then you go and invite her to a "formal" which made the situation even "cuter" than it already was.

Your such a sweet guy man.

You haven't heard of plausible deniability yet have you?

She lost interest when you displayed the fact that you don't "get it".

Fear of loss is about your only option to reel her back in a bit (don't get too crazy with this be low key about it) and when and if you do regain her attention you need to start over from scratch and do what you did right the first time to get her back to the point where you can have a do-over on what you did wrong.

For bonus points you can fluster her a bit with a little physical push/pull escalation on your way back to the top and try to run with the sexual tension that will be involved as a result of this whole situation. Then be sure to dominantly fuck her brains out like an animal when you get her into bed and who knows you may make a girlfriend out of her afterall (in the longterm).

OF COURSE THIS WHOLE REPLY ASSUMES DAMAGE CONTROL.

Your alternative is to just assume that her reasons for turning you down were legitimate, pretend nothing has changed at all, and pick up where you left off.

What will be similar in either way you choose will be that next time the girl wants you to take the lead and make sex "not her fault" you will "take her cue" but don't be surprised when she makes it even MORE difficult for you this time.