I recently had a post about this girl I was trying to get a Day 2 with. Well, long story short. She has shown several IOI's and spring break hindered the chance to hang out since we were on opposite parts of the country. Well, she was really excited to see me and hang out with me and then her ex called her up and it messed with her. She wants to get back with him now. Here is where I'm at.

Tonight I'm trying to figure out a way to give her a small gift that I got for her. How would I go about doing this? I want to give it to her and say something like, "Take a chance, I'm worth the risk." I want to conquer this becuase this is the same problem I've had my whole life. They always find another guy or go back to the old one. Please help me conquer this!!!!!!!

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My attitude towards talking to woman. When I approach a HB one phrase is going in my mind.
"What are they gonna do? Not be my friend?"

You can do what you want but I might want to think about holding off on the gift. In my experience gifts never work as well as you’d hope. I would instead work on building more attraction with her. You do that and everything will take care of itself.

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~Carmo~

No no no.
Don't give gifts.. It always fails in that stadium..

Only give a gift when you are in a relationship..

You could better hang out with her and show her how much fun you are

I've tried to get her to hang out. Its like of like a LMR that she won't want to or somethin. How could I take it to the next level in like texting or getting her to hang out with me again? She went to a party with me a few nights ago and saw I am a whole lot of fun. So I'm not sure what to do next.

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My attitude towards talking to woman. When I approach a HB one phrase is going in my mind.
"What are they gonna do? Not be my friend?"

I personally agree with alot of the guys here. Why are you giving a gift. she hasn't earned one your putting her on a pedistal. I think it is awsome that you got her to hang out. Now you just need to contiunue game as usual. You invite her out you get her buying temp up you isolate and escalate. The only differance is you know she is interested in anouther guy... what girl isn't. Personally i think your over thinking it.

Mastermind007

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When the student is ready a master will appear to show him the way. Which are you today?

the gift is a thing she asked me to get her. it's a coin. I'm a senior in the Army ROTC and she wanted a coin that she could keep with her so she knows I'll be back for it. That's why there is a gift...

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My attitude towards talking to woman. When I approach a HB one phrase is going in my mind.
"What are they gonna do? Not be my friend?"

You could leave it at home and say: I found your coin. But you need to EARN it

Let your imagination do the further work

Hi Notify,

Most girls you are going to meet, especially the hot ones, have an ex bf that you ll have to deal with. The main problem is that girls who are still attached to their ex bf are strongly emotional people and they wake up you old AFC attitude like nothing. So you have to be careful

Like most other guys here I would not give any gift until you are in a relationship. Solution had a good solution (!): make yourself be the prize and don't be afraid of approaching other girls as well! Your goal now is to generate attraction so that she really wants to win over you.

Good luck man!

PS: Btw, I am sure you are way better than the other guy so why are you afraid of him?