as a girl, you would think that breaking out of the friends zone is easy, but for me it's just not the case. basically this guy mike and I have been LJBF for 3 years. During that time, hes been my date for my semi formal, cuddled with him twice, partied with him. when he was in college, there were times when he'd flake on our plans. me, having the oneitis ignored it all.

after learning PU last year, I decided to move on with my life. freeze him out, as I enjoyed the single life and go on dates with other guys. apparently the freeze out worked since he came back into my life and would message me from time to time on facebook. he'd talk about how to approach a girl he met from a mutual friend to mentioning he might be in love with another girl. i'm not sure if he's out to get some jealousy out from me. today he texted me and asked me what are good topics to talk on a date. He's never asked me for advice until lately this month. I havent seen him since last year during his college graduation party.


how do u suggest i handle him? I still think about him when I am dating other people. I feel we will always be in the friends zone, but yet the feelings still linger. should i bring a hot guy with me next time we hangout?

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When you are a girl a freezeout can scare the guy away. It is hard enough without you making it even harder. If you show a disinterest we fall back instead of advancing.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

yeah if you freeze out a guy he is just gonna move on n not bother with you much. Hang out with him, feel the water, then you might have to jump in! playing it cold etc wont work cos you have been friends ages n he will just think your being annoying and lose all interest

if you have been good friends for all this time i dont think a freeze out will 'scare' him away. I believe he will be wondering what on earth is going on if you all of a sudden stop replying to him (thats if you're currently in contact with him very often that is).

The only other thing I can think of is to date lots of guys and just go out and enjoy your life, do not count on him. Make sure he can SEE that youre enjoying your life....and this could possibly spark something. as shallow and childish as it seems, jealousy plots are probably one of the best possible tactics one can use, if someone is jealous of you your value automatically sky rockets, and it ties in very closely with pre-selection.

does he have any idea that you like him?