Hey everyone

I had a girlfriend for almost 3 years.
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday, I got LJBF'd but I could not believe it. I called her later that day after I had cried to ask her if she was sure

She said yes coldly and that she did not want to be in a relationship with me anymore.

I dont know what to do. She was everything to me, I have no friends, im starting to get low grades

and worst of all is the thought of her having sex with someone else !

The reason for the break up was because she thinks I need to man up.

How do you guys deal with this

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Hello Steke

Sorry about your situation. I've been there and recently got out of a 2 year relationship. I spent most of my free time and energy just focusing on her.

So I didn't have much of a back-up social life either.

For me, I tried to follow the mantra and advice of the "Yes Man" movie and book. Saying yes to new oppurtunities.

I made a list of all the things I had never done and that my ex-gf had stopped me or would have stopped me from doing. I've started working my way through them.

Some of them are simple things (having acu-puncture done - i don't like needles) to more bold actions (learning karate and bunjee-jumping).

I think you need to do something similar. If you are doing new things each and every night. It keeps you busy, it opens up new doors for you and it doesn't keep you focusing on the past. Plus, you can make new friends and meet new women!

Besides if you want to get into Game, then all the new activities for you will mean that you are a higher value man. You have your own life and own interests that you are pursuing regardless of the women that come along.

Hope that helps.

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"Too much patience will get you nowhere" - Doctor Who (Tom Baker)

Thanks

I just found out though, that, she is seeing someone else..
damn Im just going through hell lately
thanks for your post man

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Sorry to hear what you are going through. I know it sucks. I don’t want to sound mean but the reason she broke up with you is probably because you turned into a beta wusbag and she lost all attraction for you. Don’t worry this happens to most men in LTR, especially ones as long as yours. You need to ask yourself if you really want her back or if you want to move on. If you want her back than focus on the below outline. I recommend getting a copy of Mat Huston’s EX2 system.

First of all cut all contact with her for at least 4 weeks. Give her the gift of missing you. By cutting contact you show that you are not needy and insecure which is probably why she broke up with you in the first place.

Evict your inner beta/wuss behavior. This is the most important thing! She ended it because you turned into something that no longer attracted her. I don’t care what your gut is telling you, do not cry or yell our pout to her. You need to suck it up and become strong on the inside.

Focus on yourself and making you happy. Do more things that you are interested in. Definitely start going to the gym if you’re not already. Working out is essential for a healthy mind. The endorphins will make you happier and you will gain self confidence.

Let her go and move on. I know I know this is easier said than done. I am having trouble with this myself right now. You really need to work hard at this as it is essential to get her back. Start dating other girls. This sounds counter-initiative but you need to do it.

After 3-4 weeks of no contact she will probably contact you. When you talk you need to be calm, cool, and collective. Show no emotion and don’t blame her or lash out. You might even want to tell her that you agree it was a really good idea to end things. This will mind fuck her a little bit.

Don’t worry about other guys she’s dating, they are probably just rebounds and usually don’t work out. Focus on these things and good luck!

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~Carmo~

Carmo, your post made my day

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

man Carmo, give me a Bro hug I love you man Im so joyful right now !
i didnt know what to do you see, i was like pitying myself all day, losing appetite, getting little sleep

lol !
i love this shit ! Finally i have the feeling im gaming her again ^^
i will get back at her within a month or so, untill then are gonna be the best weeks of my life: e.g. gaming other women for the fucking first time since 3 years !

Thanks dude If you were a girl I would have kissed you man !

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Alrite Bro
I saw your posts before and if you remember i said , she is going to dump you and you are going to spend months trying to get her back.
You fucked up here, you put a post up asking if you should dump her, when you didnt want to break up with her anyway. Truth is , you dont know what you want. You want to game but you want her as your girlfriend, and in the long run, you will be glad this is over and done with.
Im in exactly the same spot and ill give you the benefit of my last month so it helps you out.
I had a gf of a year, broke up with her, she spent 18 months trying to get me into a relationship by having sex. I decided id try a relationship finally, and she then broke it off lol.

So i took a step back. Looked at MY behaviour. Took responsibility with her for my actions, told her i was happy for her. Was NOT wussy, AT ALL. Left things on good terms and told her i was happy that she was happy and i loved her and was happy we finished as friends, in a good spot.

So firstly, you need to accept it, to yourself. YOU fucked up, dont do it again, this will help you looking forwards.
So ill take you through the texts. I did 5 weeks of no contact, while gaming other chicks. Look at these and learn. Its hard but it works. it even surprised me!

Her: ( after our last meeting ) Thanks so much for dinner , i know you'll do well
i dont respond and take her off FB, MSN, everything. NO CONTACT

Her:( 2 weeks later ) I miss you, i have been thinking about you. I know i shouldnt say this but i thought you should know. Maybe hear off you at some point in the future"

Me: ( 2 days later ) Hey. Sorry, its been so crazy with work. Hope your good x

So i gave her NO emotion. She NEEDS the emotion. She craves to know that im missing her. This doesnt mean she wants to get back though, so im not giving it to her.

10 days pass and i decide my text was a bit harsh, and she was reaching out so i should reward her with something. Still not sure if this was the right move, but here is what i said

Me: "Thanks for your text. I do think favourably of you as well. Its been so crazy with work the last few weeks. It would be good to catch up at some point"

So i do NOT say im missing her, and its emotion less, but still rewards her sentiment.

10 days pass and she texts me
HER: "Let me know if you want to meet up soon x"
9 days pass and i text her - BIG time gap, stick to these, even if its hard.

ME: "Hey, i havent had much free time the last few weeks but im free weds if you are about for a catch up"
HER: ( instant reply ) Hows everything been? Got a gf yet? weds should be ok x

Ok, so i deliberately avoid the GF question, but still being nice.
ME: Direct as ever lol:P Everythings really good, some cool things on the horizon. Everything ok with you?"

HER:HA! even more so. Yes, things are well. Lots of work. Enjoying it though. x

I didnt text back....

I want you to see this because i wish i had know how this would have panned out when i started the No contact 6 weeks ago. Its VERY hard but be assured she IS missing you. You have to get in control like i told you before. The only way of doing that is to make her chase you, even if she just wants to chase you not to lose you from her life. If you chase you lose.

Hope this helps. Sarging has helped me immensely through the break up. At first i found it very hard as i could only think of my ex, and compared other girls to her. Push through this, force yourself to go out. We have PUA, we are lucky. AFC's never get over break ups, stupid AFC's!

Im not sure what she wants out of meeting up, god knows. But im going to go into it as a confident alpha, not a wuss trying to get her back. Whatver happens, have your balls, once you give her those, you will never be friends, or lovers again.

hahah

no, i got a relationship with her a couple of months before pua. She had another bf, the stud from her school.
there were a lot other girls that liked me, but they were all fat or hb7's at most. I asked my alpha best friend why all the uglier girls liked me. He said the hot ones like you too, they just don't show it.

I fell in love with her, I thought she was the most beautiful girl on earth, but I was not needy. I didnt really care she had a bf, i just loved her.
Then she dumped her bf, and we got together. We had an almost impossible relationship cuz she lived far away. But we managed to stay together for a long period of time.
She was my first gf, and everything felt okay but I heard that she had 2 boyfriends before me, slept with them, and did everything already (blowjobs you name it, she was 16 when i got in a relationship with her) ! That made me really insecure and I also thought that she was a slut. When I heard about it my heart skipped a beat and I felt like vomiting, my heartbeat raised, it cut into my soul really.
thats when I decided to become a player, I wanted another girlfriend who was at least a virgin.
I loved my current girlfriend so much and everything was perfect, that I wanted to keep her for the rest of my life
but I also did not want to miss out on how it is to have sex with a girl for the first time.

So I know, It's not really cool from my side, but I wanted to cheat on my gf just once to see how it was. It never happened, either I didnt know how to make the girls feel attraction for me or I did not feel anything for the girl.
I also did not really push things forward because I felt guilt.

im a bit mindfucking myself at the moment aswell because, she broke up cuz there was no sexual tension between us anymore and she told me she had been fantasizing about other guys. The thought of someone else having sex with "my girlfriend" freaks me out! Though she has broken up, I still feel like she is my girlfriend. She also thinks I am too possessive. And she thinks I am insecure. I just dont wanna share my girlfriend lol

So yeah.. I feel like a total piece of shit.

I must say though, that when she just broke up I was really happy! She said wow, you look relieved. And I was like yeah i think its better this way.
But right now I feel like crap. I want her back.

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

I also want to give you guys a big thank you

You guys mean massive support to me in times like these

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Steke,
Glad I was able to help you out a little bit. It seems like you are moving in the right direction rather than harping on it and feeling helpless and insecure. Remember that you did date her once so you did have the qualities that she found attractive. Just work on getting outside your head and getting into a good state of mind that will allow you to progress and game other girls. By admitting that there was a problem, it lets you look at the situation objectively and work on fixing whatever problems there were. After 3-4 weeks she will be at the height of her loneliness so figure on being contacted around that time.

I have been getting worked up lately about trying to get something going again with an ex of mind. I don’t want her as a gf but rather as a FB. I think this is just my ego at work here. I had a “aha” moment yesterday when I realized that if she doesn’t like me, than fuck her it is her loss. It sounds simple but it totally cleared my head and put me in a good mood. Just remember “whoever cares less controls the relationship”. I just decided to completely not care at all. We shall see how it works out. She is supposed to swing by my place this weekend to pick something up. She probably thinks I am going to try to get her to hang out and hook up with me so I figure I will surprise her by being completely distant and having a I don’t care attitude and ask her to leave soon after she gets her thing. Hopefully this will show that I am not nearly as predictable as she think I am. Predictability kills attraction.

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~Carmo~

If you stick to my relationship advice you will have a chance of getting her back.
By that point if you have been practising game you will be in a position to choose whether you want her or not

Thank you Thank you guys

Im still devastated, I mean, I was cool with it. But it starts to get at me more and more.
I have times that im cool with it, then I have a break down moment. it sucks.
Also I go to sleep pretty normally and then after 6 hours I wake up sad :p LOL it sucks !

I just got a text from one of our mutual friends, she is a closer friend to my ex gf than she is to me. She asked me how I was doing. I wasn't sure what to respond but I told her I'm alright

As for Carmo; Dude ! I think ur awesome man, keep going! I think you should see this film: "Two Can Play That Game"
I plan on watching it tonight again. seriously check it out man, its a 10 step plan to get her back.. its actually from the point of view from the woman the same rules apply i think

I dont think you should just stupidly follow the steps, i think ex2 system is way better. But still, its a fun movie to watch and its very helpful ! I think you'll laugh when you watch it :p cuz its very recognizable

You can watch the whole movie for free on youtube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?videos=WIX ... T8txXnF5jU

It's cool that you don't care at all, right now I look at it this way; She broke up, She will live with the consequences.

I mean, it hurts my ego as it hurts my heart. So I plan on gaming her hard ! I even plan on taking her back after she wants me back desperately. Then fuck her for a week, without much caring from my side. Then as she is totally desperate for my love again.. I'll dump her, "kick her to the curb" and telling her she is getting fat

Thats how I feel right now, cuz im suffering so much I dont know if its a really smart idea but I think it will feel very good.

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Just try to take it a day at a time instead of trying to figure everything out right now. I think that you will find that you’ll have mixed emotions from day to day as to what it is you actually want. You might be mad, then sad, then mad again and then indifferent. It all depends I guess.

I had to really ask myself why I wanted her back after all the pain she put me through and the answer was that I really didntt want her back, but I do want to fuck her again though  hahah. In a way I almost feel sorry for her because she threw away a really good thing. My life is getting better day after day and she is missing out on some awesome times. I will check that movie out sometime. Thanks for the suggestion!

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~Carmo~

You have learnt absolutely nothing from this and deserve everything you are going through. You were a complete tool in your last forum post where you put a poll up asking if you should dump her or not.
To anyone looking at this, take notice of this guy because he knows absolutely nothing about self development and is going to be unhappy for a long time until he matures.
You cant game your ex , she doesnt want anything to do with you, you were too needy and you fucked up.
And the worst thing is, you have learnt NOTHING. You are still acting like a douche.

Eurgh!

^ I do think my ex gf deserves it, she is just so heartless at times I know its also about me being a wuss and she is no longer attracted. But she hurts me man I did EVERYTHING for her.

but anyway, im also not really myself. Sometimes im extremely angry, then I im very sad, then It's actually okay. I dunno, everything still needs to settle down in my head I guess.



but hey dudes !!

I MUST share this with you guys
Last saturday night I had my first One Night Stand ! IT WAS AWESOME ! It was also the weirdest thing that happened to both of us

She was a beautiful, intelligent, decent girl. She said she had never kissed a guy this fast (I reckon it was in about 5 minutes )
She came home with me, after she got "permission" from her female best friend. I thought everything was settled but then she came with some Anti Slut defense, She was all of a sudden like; are you looking for a one night stand, or do you want to date me afterward.
I kinda dodged the question, i was like well, honestly id like to do you. but I dont want to do anything you dont feel happy about. so.. then she was like: I want to come home with you and then we kissed again

I was gaming all night long, lots of other girls aswell before her. They all had massive bitchshields but I think on an emotional level they did like me.
When I had this girl though, I saw all the girls around me watching and making fun of me sort of, i dunno, but i do know that for some reason all of a sudden I got a lot of attention
I ignored it and paid my attention to the girl


She was a decent girl, kind of nerdy (she was seriously beautiful, she used to be dating the hottest guy at high school, she is in college now. I think she is an hb8) that had been with not so many guys. I could tell.
She came home with me and a guy friend of mine came along aswell, cuz he was sleeping at my place

It actually clicked really well between me and the girl, at first she was just someone to forget about my ex gf. But I must say that, we had a really good convo after sex (btw she is a FREAK in bed! She was extremely wild ! She was totally horny!! she was the second girl I was sleeping with, I dont have much to compare but I've never experienced anything like this. She was just so wild ! )

It turned out that we had A LOT in common! I found that out after sex! She was dumped by her bf the same day my girlfriend wanted a break with me. LOL their relationship lasted almost 3 years, just like mine ! I was her second guy she had sex with, just like she was my second girl
We even had the same bed, she even had the same poster which was hanging on my room. She even liked my other poster a lot which my ex gf didnt like.
She was kind of looking like my ex gf, i looked like her ex bf as well. I even did the same education as her ex bf. Then there was this pullover of mine on my couch, she picked it up and was like OMG! I have this same pullover for girls !

It was SO strange ! I started believing in God again ! It was actually frkn perfect!

I hope you guys like this story. btw a quick advice on how to kiss a girl faster:
Another girl before her (hb8, bitchy) gave me a drink. I dunno why, but she did.
I still had this drink when I was dancing with that girl I brought home.
I was drinking from it every now and then, while looking around the room like she was "not that important" we were not dancing for that long yet.
then i was slowly giving her more attention, and I was like feeding her my drink while saying you want some ? I held the drink quite close to her mouth. Then she drank some, just a little. but it builds massive report. So I knew I could go in for the kiss quite soon.
I put the drink away again then I danced with her again (push pull). we got closer and closer and I started looking at her mouth, she looked at mine and WHAM kclose.

lol im sitting here with a huge smile on my face, what an awesome night

btw, what happened to this forum. Yesterday I tried to get on this website and it was offline. dunno what was wrong

anyway im off, im gonna try to catch some sleep ^^

Peace

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies