This is my story, I try to summarize it, so some details may be missing..

Its about a girl, that meant everything for me, I loved her so much, for the sake of my writing, lets call her bla-bla.

Bla-bla and me, where close, although there was a 2 hour travel distance, and she had a boyfriend.. we rly liked eachother, I was hooked on her, and I thought she to on me. We talked, alot, about everything, life, flirty with eachohter, we also hanged out a few times, it was fun, no booty calls, but you know, just kissing and talking.

I was a different guy back then, I was hooked, and i was beta male, a big AFC, she hurted me alot, when she said, she choose her boyfriend, and left me standing alone..
*cause first she told me, how bad he was, and how badly she wanted me*

After this, I decided it was time to move on, and learn of this girl.. take control back of my life, and become alpha male/PUA style of life.

Now 2 months later, I am more succesfull in life, and just at the start, of my road to PUA..
I was realy happy, with how things where going, and learned to live without her..

Now comes the problem..
Bla-Bla has now dumped her boyfriend, and contacted me again, we talked, last night, about alot of things. I tell her, I dont want to be with her.
She tells me, she made a terrible mistake, and loves me, and wants to be with me, that she needs me in her life..

I dont know what to do, I actualy wanted her gone from my life, to forget her, and be awesome guy, instead of this guy hung on this one girl..

Of course I still love her, that does not disapear in the air..
But I did, move on with my life..

If I dump her out my life, she will be broken, no boyfriend, noone left, and she might do crazy things *maby even hurt herself*..

But if i stay with her, I think i lose all potential I had to be in the style life, the life of PUA, enjoying life..

I dont know how to handle the situation..

Just staying friends, does not work, its just wierd then, you know?

Please help me, and share your advice/opinion on this.

My questions are:
-What to do?
-Am I better off without this girl?
-How do you, live with hurting someone, so much?
-What do you think?
-If i break contact, whats best way???
Just sudden drop dead, or explain?

Thanks !

Just say you dont want to be with her. If she pulls any suicidal shit then just ignore it also she is only trying to play on your generous mind.

She done the exact same thing to you so just treat her however you want to and continue with your PUA stuff. Dont fall back on your AFC self just be strong and say I dont want to be with you. Forget it .. its not going to happen. Something along those lines should do the trick.

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And here I thought this might be hard to answer.

Your reverting to being an AFC. 2 months is not usually enough to solidify the right state of mind in your head.

She fucked with you and left you standing on the street alone. She is not as great as you think she is. There is always someone better and in this case someone kinder.

Don't worry about "hurting her". It's just bullshit. People get rejected all the time. It's part of life and she'll be fine. Your probably not the first to reject her. Having a vagina doesn't always mean you can get anyone you want.

Let her go and continue on your journey. You'll soon find that this girl isn't as special as you think she is.

If you must explain it to her, merely state that she had her chance and gave it up. You've moved on and she should do the same.



You should never let someone who led you on like that to do it again.

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

Remember that.

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Ya bro i had the same thing happen to me quite a while ago, but i made the mistake of hooking back up with the girl. Two weeks later she is with a new guy... brings your confidence down allot more then what it would if you just said lets stay friends.
Plus your girl is what 2 hrs away from you, what happens when the phone calls, long drives, and instant messages become boring?

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