| Cliffnotes: All went good with girl. Kissed her. Didn't see her for 1/2 months. When I saw her again was complete AFC, leading to LJBF talk.
Background: Cute girl at my dorm. A few months ago I talked with her, did some kino, went for the kiss. All good and well! Because of vacation/exeams I didn't really see her for a month or more after that. Only talked on MSN, both being a little bit flirty.
Two weeks ago I saw her again at dorm. I'm relatively new to PU and didn't really know what to do. She a bit shy and didn't kiss me again, I also did no kino because I was nervous (and a fucking idiot). Bottum line is I somehow lost my balls the last 2 weeks and didn't do any kino, didn't tried to kiss her again, acted like a big wuss in general while there were positive signals. One positive signal being she knocking on my door and saying "I'm having a 3 min break" (which could have been in the context of "GAAHHH I have a lot to learn! I need someone to talk to" idk)
Two days ago she starts on MSN with the LJBF talk.. Anyway that evening get back at my dorm. Me and some friends were going to meet up at university, then go to my dorm, and then go to a party together. So when I'm about to leave the dorm I go to her room and tell her "We planned to stay at my room and then go to a party, if we're too loud you can still say something, don't worry about it. 'bout the situation, we'll see next week. Oh and good luck with your exam tomorrow." (her room is close and you can hear the noise quite good). I could see she was nervous when I said that. This is also the last time I saw her
So I'm off to my friends at uni. Then all of us went to my dorm when uni closed down. We're all drinking so we're a bit loud (though not taking it too far). Then a nock on the door. Everyone stops talking and I slowly get up to open the door, but I already hear her running away and hear the door close. She probably heard the noise, wanted to say something about it, but was nervous.. anyway I check in the hall - indeed no one to see anymore. After that we decided to go to the party since it was already late.
I wonder what you guys think about my reaction? After telling her that I already planned to meet with friends, I felt GOOD. Like I was taking back some control of the situation! I was the one leading, not her with her LJBF. Her knock on the door, then hearing silence and running away, is also weird.
Now my gut instinct says there's something wrong with this situation. It's highly likely she's still a virgin. She learns a lot, doesn't go to any parties, is a bit shy. She was also extremely nervous about her exams (she has a fear of failure) and was complaining she couldn't sleep and focus while learning. I bet me not making a move also contributed to that. She also said something along the lines of "I want to be more at ease here" and "I know I doubted a lot [about liking me] .. but at the moment I don't feel anything".
How embarrassing!! If I just pulled the trigger and kissed her I bet it would've gone smooth. Instead my balls took a break and a "cute shy girl" gave me the LJBF talk. GOOD GOD what an eye opener to stop being such a damn wuss! I definitely learnt that I should be WAYYYY more confident.
Any advice on how to handle the situation at my dorm now? What to say? We'll be at dorm 2 weeks, then 2 week break.
Very light kino first 2 weeks, don't msn during vacation, start the real kino again after vacation. Keeping myself busy to get her off my mind and not care about the situation. Pay more attention to the girls in my social circle. Keep going to parties with friends and talk to girls. Talk to other girl at dorm and GET SEEN WITH HER. That's what's going through my mind. At least NOW I remember the few stuff I once read about PUA.
Also what to say when I see her next week?
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