So I go to a bar with 5 HOT girlfriends. Lets judge them. Kate is 19 has long red hair, frekles, tan skin, bright green eyes, and a killer smile. Pluse she has a 4.0 GPA and has Zero baggage. I'm in love with her so I call her a 10. Then you got this 22 year old pale skin, red lip, black hair, hazel eyes, mouse girl who used to be fat but now is like a solid 8. Then 3 blondes ranging from 6,7,8.

We are at this bar. So many dudes are coming around buying drinks for the girls. I have to fight them away on the dance floor. I get free drinks too. Guys swaming like bees.

ANOTHER night I go out with my girlfriend who doesn't use any makeup and doesn't own a pair of colthes other than brown and grey colors. She is cute (6), french, and shakes her ass all the time. But she's got no color, no flame, no attraction. No one even looks at her. She is also always willing to hang out with me, but she will never let me sleep with her.

the 10(kate) wont let me sleep with her either, but the 10 (kate) doesn't do shit for me, and The pale 8 wont even return my messages sometimes. The hotter they are the less they have to work. They become selfish bitches.

What does it entail hanging out with selfish bitches?
You only do what they want to do.
You always go.
You never ask for anything.

Does it suck. No it doesn't suck. Actually it's fine, and a lot of fun. Plus they tell me exactly how they want me to treat them. They are my friends with no benefits. I am frustrated a lot because I get horney, but who doesn't. At the same time I am being trained to be the perfect man by beautiful attractive women. But, sometimes I wonder if just being a PUA and using some game on them will help me. I want to sleep with the red head 10 so bad. So unbeleavbily bad. She is just a friend.

She knows I want to sleep with her. She put up the guard against me, but she still wants to hang out with me, but she is very careful around me. Maybe I am coming on to strong. That would explain the one-itis. I'll have to move on. It's so painful to move on. Maybe I should express my love to her before moving on... Probably not. The best thing for me to do is to go after another women. When I do that there is no turning back. If I start to sleep with kate's friends she will never sleep with me. I just wish I could come from a different angle. If I wasn't so fucking horney all the time it wouldn't be a problem. The only thing I want to do is sleep with her and she knows it. I of course love her unconditionally, but at the same time, I am trying to prepare myself to emotionally disconnect because of the precieved LGBF for life persona.

I went through this shit with a girl in my past named tatiana. Tatiana still talks to me, and we made out once. I lost intrest in her after I traveled out of the country for 3 weeks. I get so focused on the girls good qualities that I imagine the girl being perfect for me without really knowing her. I lose sight of reality. It gets out of hand and they call it one-itis.

I'm so in love with the new redhead 10. I thought to much about our future. She's so young she doesn't know whats going on. I have every possible chance to get with her, but I don't know how to act around her. I know she wants to be protected and feel safe. She is extremely conservative. I know she likes military guys like her father. Guys who are big dick heads. Who are super selfish and uncompromising. She wants me to demand demand demand, reassure, demand demand demand. But I don't know how to demand anything. I ask her and she always does things for me. But when it comes to personal things outside of school work she flakes on me.

We are ready to be in a relationship. But she is scared to "get baggage" if I don't work out. I am told to take it slow, but I am afraid she will find another guy in the meantime. I don't know.

I feel like I should risk it all. But I know that expressing my love to her will only pile up the brick walls. She stays so distant from me, and so guarded. Maybe I could just break through them grab her by the shoulders and stare in her eyes and say I love you. But we have already said that to each other, i think she ment it as friends. So, my only option is to play it cool for a long ass time. Risk her losing me to another man, and trying to be there to keep it from happening. Until when though... until what time will I get to be with Kate.

This is my dilimea guys. I don't know WTF to do.

I already know most of you will say forget about her move on, there are plenty of fish in the see. And you are right. But how many of you know a solid 8 with a tyte almost virgin body, and an innoncents that penetrates the aura of her surroundings. Her goodness rubs off on me like hot butter on white steamy rice.

After that being said... still think I should find another girl?

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Walk Hard

Telling her you love her will only scare her away when you havn't build enough attraction. So that's a no-go for sure!

Get with another girl, show her you can get other girls other then her. That'll bring social proof, and you can take your mind off of this redhead for now. Once she sees you with different girls (don't even have to be gf's), she will want more attention from you. That way you can reward her by giving some attention and work from there.



Don't respond to her every call, text message etc right away. Let her wait before she gets attention. Hang out with her friends (they are also your own friends, right?) and ignore her a little bit. Let her beg for your attention.. let her chase you!

Show her you're cool and don't get horny every time you meet with her. Hang out once in a while, and just be funny. Show her you are a good and safe kandidate to be her mate. Build up some kino aswell (take it slow, as she is aware you want to sleep with her).

Don't always be the nice-guy. Be the cool and funny guy. I've been a nice-guy most of my life and always ended up as 'LJBF' with the hottest girls i've met. And once your in the friendzone, there's hardly any way out of it (though it is possible). They will stop considering you as a potential mate.

Game her like you would game any other girl!



or.. just forget about her and go find another girl instead. That's probebly the easiest way out of this.

KAte's friend Natile likes me a lot. So I could start hanging out with her.

Yea it is a good idea to ignore Kate. Her birthday party is coming up. I wonder if I should ditch her on it... it just seems so wrong.

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Don't ignore the Birthday Party unless Kate like doesnt invite you or something ... that will DLV on you and you'll just lose everything with Kate...

I suggest you setup some sort of way you can get Natalie to bring you along to Kate's party. I'm assuming Natalie is friends with Kate so shes gonna be invited to the birthday party for sure. And totally play your game on Natalie, use DHV stories, negs, C&F talk, and some kino to build attraction (she likes you rite!? ). This is a PUA ploy if you want Kate to be intrested in you. Kate will notice how you are with Natalie and hopefully become a little jealous, maybe to the point where she might make small advances on you. Just make sure you ignore Kate (besides wishing her Happy Birthday and stuff) and dont pay her any mind when she makes small talk with you.

Come back and tell us how it went (report) and we'll critique and suggest opinions on how best to proceed from that point.

Hope this helps ... Cheers!

What are socially accepted as "10's" in todays society are not ACTUALLY selfish bitches, they have just never had to do things the same way the rest of society does them. They are used to telling, and not being told. And because of their AMAZING looks, no one corrects them, or lets them in on the reality of the matter..

Applied to your situation, A PUA should never need to be trained. The more you let her tell you HOW TO TREAT HER, the more she will resist sleeping with you. The ball is in her court. Take a look:

1.) She KNOW'S you want to put your PNVG.

2.) She is TELLING you how to treat her

3.) And you are JUMPING through her hoops unconditionally

I am not saying that you are not proficient at PU if you are, because we can never see what is closest to us. I'm not saying that you have to move on, because she still talks to you/hangs out with you.

But obviously you have not been gaming her correctly. You must SHOW her that she can't MOLD you, or tell you how to treat her, more than that, you can't let her know that you are so invested in her. This just gives her all the power. She can Consciously play with you like that. (Because 9's and 10's do that) and while she is playing with you, since she has the knowledge that you WANT her, she will subconsciously loose attraction to you because you letting her do that is both DLV, and beta behavior.

You are her toy right now. she can hang out with you, because I'm sure she likes you to some degree, and you entertain her. But why not the other way around?

It sounds very much like she is perpetually leading the interaction. negging her or not, she is the dominant one in your interaction.

If you want to lay the golden ten, you must gain control back. Do whatever you have to do...

Does that mean, Freeze out? does that mean more negging? Does that mean hook up with her other friend? It probably means all three. You are in damage control.

But you can never again allow her to tell you to do anything. From now on, the relationship is what YOU make it.. Is she lucky enough to hang out with YOU?

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