Whatsup, MPUA, first time poster.

I've been looking on information on how to counter boyfriend destroyer topics. I'm with a beautiful woman who I'm in love with, an I do trust her, I just don't entirely trust the people around her. All googling really turned up was Boyfriend Destroyer advice and guides. I couldn't find a single thing on how to counter such tactics. The only thing that comes to mind is catching somebody running a game on my girl and busting them for it, making them look like a tool. But you know, you can't always be there. Is there any guides to actually countering boyfriend destroyers? If not, any lengthy advice?

Hey, I am a newbie to the community too.

As regarding to boyfriend destroyers. From what I alrdy know, you just need to make sure your gal feels secure with you at all time. Tell her that you trust her. And when you see a guy gaming her, out alpha him. Another good way is to talk to her about these boyfriend destroyers, and discuss with her about it. (: That way she can call bluff when other guys try it on her.

Well, I am a newbie but I hope this helps you with some issues. Have a healthy relationship mate and all the best with that girl!

im pretty good with this technique... so i suggest you do next.

1st get her to comfort phase so she feel she can tell you everything (you can do this by sharing some personal things with her and she will start to trust you more)

2nd when she starts to talk about her bf you must act this way:
- you understand her and support her even if she is wrong (or if she rly fucked it up then you support her anyway like it happens, i would do same thing etc...)
- when her bf fucked up something you dont shit on him directly. You say something like (i cant believe he did that i totally understand you freaked out!) or compare yourself (if i were him i would think twice i cant believe he did that, i totaly understand you went mad)

3rd dont talk about her problems all the time... transition to nicer topics because you dont want to listen about her bf all the time, but when she mention it from time to time you use boyfriend destroyer and when you DLV him and support her you transition again to happier topic. This way you will change her mood to better and set her mind in a way "you are making her feel great" and the chump "makes her feel like shit".

4rd when she starts to compare you with her boyfriend your work is almost done.

Last chick i was playin with i needed some time to get rid of chump cause she rly loved him (thats what she said at the time)... but after 3 weeks she started to compare me how gr8 i am and she wish he is more like me sometimes etc... i DLV-ed him and DHV-ed myself. After 4 weeks she said shes single

Good luck and prepare to go to hell when you die... this is totally unethical and unmoral

So you seek anti-boyfriend destroyers...

That is mainly cockblocking the guy if you take the situation as it is or preventing it if you wanna think ahead.

To prevent it before it happens, get a deeeeep connection with your girl.

To deal with it whenever it comes up, just show that you are a better choice. Dont even get dragged into the competition. Acknowledging the guys attempts to destroy you will only make it work.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

well without 1st step i wrote there is no chance that bf destroyer will work... She must feel connected to you etc...

Lol, the best counter is to let her read these forums lol.

That is not a good idea at all...

That assumes that she is interested in staying with her BF even if something better comes up and tries to avoid temptation. That never really happens. If she is gonna feel better with someone else whe will go for it. Thats life. So the best cure is to make her feel good with you.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I was asking for advice on how to counter boyfriend destroyers, not advice on how to be a boyfriend destroyer!

To the rest of you, thanks for your words. I had figured the only main defense was having that great connection. She's also been made aware of boyfriend destroyer tactics (and I did it quite suddle if I might add). I have that deep connection with her, I just wonder how powerful this manipulation can be, and reading about it shows that it can be rather effective. I guess what I didn't take into consideration is that girls it work on probably aren't in happy, stable relationships or are themselves unstable (she left another guy for you, she cheated on another guy with you, she'll do the same to you).

Here's a good article I found called "Get Her Friends To Like You":

http://ca.askmen.com/dating/heidi_60/60 ... _girl.html

Best defense against BF destroyers:

Be a good boyfriend.