Whenever I'm standing alone waiting for someone I tend to over-analyze everything around me.

I'm just wondering how I can get the same confidence I have with my friends when I'm alone? Is it purely a mental/inner game thing?

Do you feel the same anxiety when waiting at a bus stop or waiting in line? Don't let stupid social pressure get to you like that. I get like that sometimes too, everyone does!

Everyone around you is too worried about their own shit to notice yours.

You know what I do? OPEN, I talk to people, socialize, that's why I'm there. Why do you need the safety net of a friend to have a good time?

I think of it this way "Ohh, [friend] is gonna be here soon, I better have 3 girls throwing themselves at me when he walks through the door" either way, you get your warm up out of the way, without your buddy seeing you fumble the first few sets.

If you really can't handle standing doing nothing, then you need to work on your insecurities, but until then.. pull out your phone and play brickbreakerdeluxe

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Its a mental thing when it comes down to it. It all has to do with self-image. How do you think about yourself? What kind of man do you describe yourself as? Myself ... I'll tell you right now I describe myself to be the "Lone Ranger" ... I don't bring friends with me much because really my friends can be a hinderance to my game (They will hit up on any women I talk to) ... So I go alone like the Lone Ranger ...

Anyways enough about me ...

Who cares what people think (I certainly dont) ... I'm talking about what you think of of yourself. I think theres a place for this kind of thing and you can check it out ... "Inner Game" ... its here on this website and you should definately check it out.

Now how you present yourself to people...

Try looking up pics on google like "James Bond."

See how he stands at the bar with his martini in hand ... notice how he holds himself up ... Thats how an Alpha male holds himself in public when he's alone ... and I try my best to emulate that (lol I dont drink martinis but you get the idea)

If anything just dont slouch with your arms cross or anything (thats a closed off posture and makes you unapproachable) ... arms to the side ... shoulders back and chin up!!! Or take up some space ... lean on your arm with your hand resting on the bar wide and away from your chest ... and your drink somewhere in front of your chest ... or sit on a chair with your leg resting on your knee/lower thigh with one hand on your drink on the bar and the other resting on top of another chair (I do it lots and I get tons of looks like "who does this guy think he is" type looks haha lol)

I hope this helps with what your looking for ... but definately check out the "Inner Game" forum ... Cheers!