I've been finding myself in a certain position of late. The position is the one just prior to dating a girl. I've never moved beyond this because I've never felt that I really wanted to date any of them.

I was thinking about it recently. I've never been in a "real" relationship before, so I guess I don't really know what to expect or look for. At times I tend to find myself rationalizing why I don't want to get into a relationship right now.

Could this be a problem with my inner self? (i.e inner game lacking something)
Or could it be that I just haven't found the right girl to date yet? (Quality vs quantity argument)

I was also thinking that it might be that I'm just afraid of the unknown in this case...

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

SBAP

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Every Saint has a Past, Every Sinner has a Future

Dude i have a similar problem, I last about 6 month with the most amazing chicks before ending up in bed with there friends. I broke it off with my last one after 5 months to prevent doing it to her. I think i just like the thrill of the chase. maybe onday i will settle down.

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Thrill of the chase!

I've always thought that it should just flow.

I've never been the one to choose, "I'm going to be in a relationship because i want to be in a relationship"

I got out of a LTR recently and dove back into this community.. I even told myself i was not going to commit to a relationship for some time. NOW there is this girl who i've become attatched to... It kills me, but if she ends up presenting the opportunity to be in an exclusive relationship, I WILL TAKE IT. And yes it's what i want to do, even though it's not what i told myself i DIDN'T want to do.

The point is, if you're debating it in your head, you probably don't want it that much. and if you don't want it that much, than why not keep gaming? Being exclusive is not much fun unless you are truly into this other person.

You're probably reading too much into it. I'm in the exact same situation as you but the only difference is that I've actually decided I dont want a relationship, ain't ready for one and am too selfish but commitment is definitely something I have decided I dont want for a while.

Don't stress about it though, you will meet a girl every now and again who could be good enough to start a relationship and start stressing you out but it all part of the game, some things you just have to accept for what they are. Read what mrcoffee has to say...just go with the flow and don't think about it too much, enjoy the moment and if it happens then great if not at least you had a good time.

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Some men succeed because they are destined to, but most men succeed because they are determined to

i think once you know you got game and can pick up almost anybody you like it gets hard to stick with the same person. I say hell, play around. eventually youll come across a chick you really dig. Then you can settle down a bit