Last week, I went out for drinks with a cute girl in one of my classes. I met her two weeks prior at a class event we attended and hit it off. During class, we'd text inside jokes or make fun of things in the class back-and-forth or flirted to bide the time. We were both amused.

As for the date itself, it went very smoothly. I showed up a few minutes early...she was already happily waiting for me. A few people I know who happened to be hanging out there stopped by to quickly say hi (social proof?). We kept things very light, shared laughs, I initiated some kino and picked up the check. Afterward, I walked her back to her place. She's a little bit shy and went in for a tight hug. She said she'd "definitely" be up for another time out.

So far, so good. A few days later, we're in class again. She tells me she's busy over the weekend (work and has two tests early this coming week). The second test is for our class, so I suggested we go out that evening to "celebrate." There is a popular dessert/pastry place I have never been to and suggested checking it out. She said that sounds good.

However, just as things are getting into a groove, there's a twist. This twist is her deciding it's "game" time. For the past few days, I've been receiving the silent SPAM. We both like the same comedy show on TV and exchange clips on Facebook. Normally, she takes part, comments, laughs, etc. I sent a clip to her a couple days ago...nothing. She loves to text, so I send a text the next day casually saying "hey, what's up" just to touch base and keep the momentum moving...nothing.

There are three reasons I can think of as to why a girl would give a guy the silent SPAM:
1.) She mad at something I did - most likely not the case, we haven't had any issues yet and nothing that would have caused an issue.
2.) She isn't at all interested in me - I guess this is always a possibility, but I doubt it. She seemed genuinely interested during our date (eye contact, smiling, talked a lot) and has shown other signs of interest as of late.
3.) Its a sh!t test! - I feel this is the answer. Maybe she feels she's showing her hand too much and wants to mix things up. Additionally, she's attractive + single + seems to have good morals. She probably has standards and wants to see what kind of man I am.

As you can tell, I'm playing this off as a sh!t test, not her losing interest or being mad/upset. We're both only three months away from graduation, there's no point in dragging things out. This silent SPAM game is frustrating: I don't want things to stall out by not maintaining communication, but if I pursue it here, I'll look needy/desperate. What should I do? I see her in two days in class...the same day we supposedly have a date.

Any sort of answer to this headache would be appreciated. In the past, I have tried going "no-contact" with girls I had some interest in who were flaking on me, and did not hear back.

This case is a little different. The girl has told me she "doesn't do that" when it comes to flaking, and so far has backed it up (I also invited her to a Super Bowl party, which she was happy to attend). And as I said before, we have a date scheduled for Tuesday, so I can't draw this out.

making her laugh and shit is great, but what have you done to get her sexually comfortable around you?


There are 100000000 guys that can make her laugh. But guys that are sexually non-judgemental are just a handfull (so to speak)

That's a true statement, but how does that help with this thread?

Things would escalate sexually with each passing date. So far, I have been on one date lol. The second date I would do more for sure.

And the games go on. Today, one of my friends in the class and me (she knows us both) organized a real casual study session later on tonight, as we have an exam tomorrow. Previously, this girl has said she'd like to study with me/us for this test. So, logically I text her asking if she'd like to join us. Nothing.

Again, there's nothing for her to be upset about. There's a chance she'd lose interest but that would have been very sudden. Chances are this is her silent SPAM test. Should be interesting since we have a date tomorrow as well.

EDIT: I guess it fit her schedule to respond finally lol. She wants to join us, so this should be something to see.