Hello,

I need some advice about my situation. There is this older woman I am good friends with. We ended up having sex awhile back. She told me that she really likes me but the situation is complicated. What she meant was her and her ex-boyfriend were trying to get back together. Guess what? They did get back together. She told me he is planning on moving out here real soon. She said they are planning to live with each other. But what I don't understand is as soon as she was on her way back from her vacation she gave me a call several times to let me know that she was on her way. Soon as she got back into town she gave me a call and wanted to see me as soon as I got off from work. While I was there her boyfriend called and she wanted me to be silent when she was on the phone. While she was on the phone she was trying to rush him off the so she can spend time with me. I ended up staying there for about two hours. She also cooked for me that night. Then the next few days she wanted to spend time with me and we did do that. While this is going on she is flirting with me and at the same time she tells me she is trying to avoid having sex no matter how much she enjoyed it. Now my thing is I don't mind being just her friend with benefits. But at the same time I do like this woman. Another thing is if I don't respond to her texts or answer the phone when she calls. She gets upset. Talking about confusing mess. Her boyfriend is in town this week and I'm not going to even contact her at all. So what should I do? I know some people will say move on but it's hard to move on when we are real good friends. Also I like this woman and we have a connection. I was even thinking about not contacting her after the boyfriend leaves. Is that a good idea? I feel like I'm doing the chasing at times and she's enjoying it. I do notice when I don't respond to her calls/texts she gets upset. When we do talk again should I stay positive when she starts talking about her boyfriend? He wants to marry her but she said that she is ready for that at all. I know one of her main reasons is me and she is felling like shes being rushed. So how can I get her to focus on me more?

Thanks

get up off your ass and ask a girl for her phone number........duh

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I'd continue to hit it as long as she keeps giving it to you. I wouldn't let her discuss her boyfriend with you as then you'll become the "bitch boy" she runs to so she can discuss her problems. My only advice to you is to recognize where you stand. You are plan B to her. She's keeping you nearby in case her current shit falls through. Once she stops giving you sex, I'd move on and halt contact until she is ready to put out.

If you can keep your feelings in check and realize you are second to him, then go for it. Just be glad you aren't that guy...lol

Don't let her get upset at you for not responding to her texts or answering her calls. If a girl is not willing to be your girlfriend, she doesn't get the girlfriend SPAM. You're essentially being her bitch while she fucks someone else.

Chillguy,you're confusing us.

1 point you say that you don't like the MILF(if she is),then the next you say that you do,and yall have a connection...

Well,I see you developing ONE-it is when you shouldnt[she's taken].

Why the F are you worrying that she has a bf?

Your only concern should be laying this chicc whenever she needs it. A fuck friend.

She should understand that if her bf's in town,she can't expect to be with you.

So I wonder if it's you who's creating this mini-jealousy,needy SPAM.

Try to build that understanding that she's taken and the most yall could be is FBs.

But,in your lack of understanding female psycology in the seduction community,it seems like you'd set the wrong frame with this woman.

Instead of setting the initial frame that yall are just having fun,seems to me that you set the romance & love frame which now have the woman strung along getting upset that you don't reply.

It ultimately comes down to you and the wrong frame you'd set.

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I have her number, we are friends on fb, and I have a her e-mail address.

I appreciate your response but I don't recall saying I don't like her. Maybe I do need to fall back a little bit more. Hell last night I told her that I swinging by to drop something off and she said it was cool but she was sleeping. Then she hit me up twice without me answering and she got p'd off. I then her back telling her that I'm not going make it and she should get some rest. All I know she was steaming after that.

I feel you on that. Thanks

I agree. I know her boyfriend doesn't know anything about me. Soon as he left this morning I received multiple emails from her asking me why am I not answering my phone. Then she hit me up on a social website trying to communicate on there. Of course I did not respond. I am most likely going to go the friends with benefits route. It's not like I don't have other options.