Hey guys
The power balance of relationships is one of the most interesting aspects of PU-arts I think, and I have a bit of a sticky situation involving that - for the whole story, check this thread:
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Anyway, the situation in short is like this: I f-closed a girl about two and a half weeks ago, after which I left for holidays for a week. During this, I texted her once about 3 days after the f-close, a joke, something bout it being lovely (works better in my native language) seeing her and then another joke, which she responded very positively to, continuing the joking and saying it'd been lovely to see me too. A few days before coming home, I chatted with her on facebook, and she seemed pretty into me, I got kicked off the internet mid-convo after which she left me a msg on my wall saying something like "have fun, ill see you when you get back home
" - all in all, I felt she was interested.
I got back home, and went to a party with friends, not with her though - I'd already chatted with her on FB earlier and we'd talked about meeting up in clubs later, so I texted her around 1:30 AM and she wrote something to the effect of "Nah, we're gonna stay home tonight, too bad I don't get to see you tho", I was drunk and replied something like "Boring, come on", to which she just replied "No, you have fun." Later in the night, at like 5 AM, she texted me again and after exchanging a few texts, she asked if she could sleep at my house, which unfortunately wasn't possible, since I had two friends over - I asked her about sleeping at her, which also wasn't possible, she wrote something like "Maybe another time" and we called it a night.
Now, I was developing more and more of a one-itis for this girl, and the day after, I decided to text her to try and make sort of a semi-date that day, sunday. She took a long time, 1½ hour, to answer, and her answer was pretty much "well, i might be going to [some other city] today". I was unsure what to reply to such a pretty dismissive answer, and just waited. About half an hour later, she texted me something like "My phones running low on battery, im still at my friends, you can come over to my place later", then one minute later "Or I can come over to you?". I replied something, and thought I was gonna see her later, when she texted "I'll be home in an hour, but maybe its best if I talk with my sister first - im a bit "holding-back"[no adequate translation sorry] about all this". This pissed me off. I replied "Well thats up to you. I understand. Do what you want." [For those who didn't check the other thread, her sister is one of my very close friends]
She didn't reply and we didn't talk until thursday, at which point I was just meeting her sister with a friend of mine (she and her sister lives together). She came in and hung out with us for a bit, I teased her a little bit but else just hanging out normally.
I guess I was (and still am) falling in love with her, and I was quite hoping she'd text me or something friday night, but I didn't talk to her at all - I was just hanging with some friends, watching movies, chilling etc.
Saturday, I decided to call her - I was obviously nervous, but I was pissed about the weird situation (we essentially had a date that she pretty much cancelled and never contacted me about again) and wanted at least some clearance, whether for good and bad. So I called her, joked a bit about what she'd been doing friday night (I knew she was at a halloween party), asked her what she'd be doing that night and she said she was going out with her sister and some other friends and said that we should meet or something like that. We chatted a bit more, and ended up (mistake, I know) just settling for sometihng like "we'll talk later" when obviously I should've said something like "Write me when you hit the clubs" or whatever. Now I figured I'd probably have to write her. Anyway, she seemed positive when I called her.
I got pissdrunk with some friends that night, and at about 2:50 AM, I decided that I wasn't gonna wait for her texting me and just texted her something "Hey X, you out and about yet?". No reply for this. Haven't talked to her since - she didn't write anything the day after either.
Now - sorry for the huge intro - this confuses me. When I came home from my holiday, she wanted to see me and come fuck me. I set a date with her, she cancels, she seems unresponsive - it seems like the power has shifted from me to her. Yet I also can't decide whether it objectively has - I feel like we're all over - or whether it's all in my head and everything's quite alright. What I'm going to do is probably just wait for her to contact me - I called her and texted her without reply after all. If she doesn't I guess that's it anyway. But I'd love to hear peoples thoughts about the development.
CHAT