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Ok so I've been field testing different styles of things between number close and getting a day 2. Lately, upon getting her number (usually at a club), I've been texting 10min -1 hour later, "Hey it was good meeting you. -Paul" this way, they have my number right away. I don't know if this is good or not but the main reason I'm doing this is when I fail trying to isolate and I don't k-close. The meeting will end successfully but the girl will have to resume her normal plans with her friends.
One thing that's possessing me to do this follow up text after the first meeting is because I'm tired of number closes and think that it's 1 last ditch effort for possibly hooking up with them again at bar close. Sometimes the guy or girl will be able to lose their inhibitions a little bit more through text messaging. Sometimes the girl will say something in that follow-up text convo that she was too shy to say in the F2F meeting (like asking what you're doing after bar close).
This last wknd was my end of this experiment. Since I only manipulate 1 variable at a time in my experiments, a nine that I met last wknd, is not getting this follow-up SPAM. Do u think this change will produce favorable results? Share your last experiences...
Seems to me that the quasi immediate texting projects a bad image from experience. You want to make such a good impression on her that she'll remember you even if you call her 3 days later
Though, I'm no fan of the "wait 3 days by all means" theory, i'm DEFINITELY advising you against the "Don't even wait an hour" line.
If a girl sends you that sort of message, it's cute gratefulness.
If a guy does it, it's more like "Hey, i hope you haven't forgotten me yet, I was that guy you met 30 min ago, I REALLY enjoyed my time with you, Do you want to date ? I don't really have any other plans right now."
See what I mean ? It puts her on a pedestal.
Act as if SHE was the one lucky to get to talk to you. In such case, she doesn't need to be thanked for hanging out with you. SHE owes you.
And she definitely doesn need your number.
1) she ISN'T going to call you
2) It leaves her the choice not to pick up when you call
3) It forces her to make a mental choice about wether or not you deserve to stay in her phone book ("Am I actually going to add this guy on my cramped cell?" If yes, then you're lucky. If no, you got disqualified before the first date)
DON'T LET HER THINK, DON'T LET HER CHOOSE. And def don't call her or text her the same night.
And when you finally call her, don't let any anguish transpire.
CHAT