So I have decided I want to bring back some sort of Q&A with the members here. However the sheer volume of questions I was asked before was just to much to give really good responses to everyone. So I have decided to answer 2-3 questions a week... they will either be the most commonly asked for the week or what I deem the most interesting/helpful for the week.

You can post your questions on my new blog for consideration: http://davidhartdating.blogspot.com/201 ... ack-q.html

2/14/2010 - Staying in the Moment - http://davidhartdating.blogspot.com/201 ... oment.html

How do you stop thinking about the happiness you could have in the future together with another girl?

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thats a great question magnum, I'll include it as one of my question I respond to this weekend. I will post a link to my answer blog entry on this thread also so that it's easier for everyone to get to.

Hey Doc,

Could you tell me what this rash is? (not serious).

Jokes aside what would you say is your single favorite exercise/technique for building/solidifying inner game. I appreciate the hole that this represents in most guys game (my own included) and I need that foundation to build on.

Thanks.

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The Enforcer.

The game is easy to start, the referee blows the whistle. It's where you go from there that matters.

Well there are many different things that all work together to help you build up your inner game. If I had to pick just one exercise it would be this one:

http://davidhartdating.blogspot.com/201 ... image.html

There I outline the 6 simple steps you can take to change something about yourself and begin the process of conditioning it into permanence.

Also this weeks Q&A answer should be very helpful in this regard.

Thanks Doc, this seems really valuable and I will work to implement it to full effect in my daily life. I have one further question - I don't mean to hog the Q & A but in retrospect I should probably have asked this question first:

You obviously see a lot of aspiring PUA's in your day to day life, so tell me what qualities do you think seperate the most successful trainees from the rest? I make a habit of studying successful people and instilling thier qualities and values in myself. As I know no successful PUA's I would love to hear your opinion on this so that I can begin to build the mindset that will allow me to excel.

Thanks again.

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The Enforcer.

The game is easy to start, the referee blows the whistle. It's where you go from there that matters.

Q&A - 2/14/2010 - Staying in the Moment

Magnum15 asks "How do you stop thinking about the happiness you could have in the future together with another girl?"

I speak about raising your standards and lowering your expectations, making decisions in the moment and the power of equal choice.

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Here is the link to my blog post for this Q&A: http://davidhartdating.blogspot.com/201 ... oment.html

Great Advice Dude. I will apply it to my life and let you know if a I am able to master it.

Right Now I am in the process of trying to date this great girl, but she just wants to be friends with me. I feel too hard for her because I was always thinking in the future. Now I have to master my thoughts. Thanks for the tips!

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Hey Doc,

Great advice above.

I met this girl and at about the same time she just got a bf its been 3 months now and we speak all the time over facebook and sometimes at work we flirt I DHV to her she is into me but wont just leave her bf, whenever her bf is a dick she sooks to me about him and says that she wouldnt have the problems with me id make a good bf. How do I get this girl under control... Bf destroyers? Freeze out? I do really want her as a gf. Just need to know the frame and techniques I need to be able to achieve this.

Nice

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Hi,

So there is a girl from another university that I haven't spoken to in ages. Recently she accepted my friend request on Facebook(she rarely uses FB) and I got her e-mail and sent her and we have the conversation so far:

Me: Hey, looking thru your Facebook pictures and I just wanted to say that you have nice hair...Are you wearing a wig?

Her: Hi, thanks. My hair is authentic~haha.

Me: Oh, my mistake...We haven't met in ages since the seminar before. Why didn't you come to the Presentation we organized? [I mistakenly wrote Presnetation, it was called something else]

Her: Hmm, right we haven't seen others in a long time...Presentation?....maybe its because I'm always @ school...hahah

I'm thinking of what to say next. I've read that it's best to use statements instead of questions and not to refer to their appearance on the e-mail game...I've made both mistakes...but she's still replying which is good. She said "haha" twice in both replies...I think it doesn't mean anything...We haven't spoken to each other for around a year so...saying that "oh you haven't been out from uni in a while, maybe we could meet up again?" would be creepy. How could I make it more interesting? Make up a story about what she missed out on on the presentation?

Should I cube her online? [Is it too early]Get her msn??

Hey, i have a little problem

i used the game on a girl and it basically worked and i did get a kiss close

but when i saw her 3 weeks later she introduced me to her girlfriend and she whispered something in her ear and laughed and then did sssssssst you know with one of her fingers on her lips.

i totally went crazy and i left

what to do

I will try to keep this as shot as possible.

First a litle bit about myself and my background:

I've been a part of PUA community for a while now and I have had many fun and sick experiences. I've tried a few different techniques and starting to get a pretty solid game. I can almost always get a number to the girls I pick up. I get some K-closes and a few # closes. But I often use a whole shit load of time before I get to the K-and # closes, so I was wondering if you had any tips on how to get to the K-closes faster.

I really really appreciate it if you could bother to give me some tips.

Btw. Sorry for all the writing errors that probebly are in this post.

I'll skip the backstory seeing it's something all of us probably have experienced. But what to do if a girl is playing with you. A brazilian girl said over a hundred times (not exagerating) she loved me and likes me etc. But since last week she's just ignoring me. She doesn't reply on text messages, when i see her it's just hi. I tend to be quite suspicious to these type of things so I didn't go running after her. When I saw her last time she started talking to me and i asked what she was up to that night. She was going to this bar at 10 and was going to text me. She didn't, so i got kinda flaked.

What is the advice for these kind of situations? Just let it pass and try to forget? Or is there still an option to "gain control" over the situation? Because i assume most among us don't like when there on the losing end of the situation. How to overplay girls that are playing?

How Do I start. I don't have any friends. Never had a girlfriend. I have searched and searched, but don't know a starting point.

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Please excuse my thread making. I'm starting completely fresh and need to limit the ammount of rejections whilist I'm starting.