| I write this because it is something that I would have wanted to know when I was starting out. Hopefully it can help some of you.
I assume that most of you have started out using the MM. (Something that I have done as well.)
When we learn the MM, we often find something we like, something that makes sense. Often we have had a problem in the past like lower value, and we find something to cure it, like negs. So we start using it all the time. Or we stick with the script.
We first open, neg, attract, qualify etc etc. All according to plan.
The problem is that a girl is not a machine. Just like we have difficulties on different areas they have needs in different areas. Some of them do not think that they are higher than you so dont neg, some don think that you are too tall so dont push the matter.
What Mystery did was to give you a general outline for how a pickup can be done. That is the "average" pickup, with a girl with no special problems or anything like that.
That doesnt mean that you cannot change the way you pickup if you think that she is gonna need special SPAM.
I have never met two girls who have responded in the exact same way to what I am doing. They are all individuals. This also means that they need to be treated like individuals. If a girl doesnt feel like she is higher than you, then a neg might do more damage than good. Just an example.
The same with DHVs. If you have already flipped a switch a girl will find it odd that you keep pushing that switch. If you are there with 2 friends you dont need to run social proof routines. That comes off as bragging/overdoing it. Overdoing your DHVs is a common mistake.
I used to go in assuming that I start from zero in all cathegories (preselection, social proof etc etc.).
But I have realized that it is not true. We dont go in at zero, we go in higher on most cathegories. The girl will assume things about us, they will not think that you start from zero. Ok, they might be bitchy or whatever but they will still assume things. When you approach you have already started building value. The way you walk, dress, look at people, smile, tells a lot. Your inner game will help you here.
If you can get the girl curious about who you are, then you can hear what she wants you to say. She will basically tell you which attraction switch you need to flip in order to move up the ladder. I normally just drop in words like ex-gf and friends etc into my flufftalk and the thread she reasts to is the switch I flip. You dont need to flip them all, you just need to flip the ones that arent already flipped.
So calibrate people. Dont just do the same thing over and over, people are different and you will come off as "a social robot" or bragging about your accomplishments. Remember that a girl is not like a guy. She will not think that you are repeating yourself only when you do. She will think that you repeat yourself when you bring up the same topic. Like this guy is completely fixated with his old GF, get over it already. Or why does he keep talking about his friends?
Dont get stuck, move on!
Ezo
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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.
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