Ok, so in my mind, I always thought that once a girl was emotionally hooked up on you and liked you, and as long as you didnt screw up someone, that you were in.

Well anyways,

I met a girl who admittedly told me she had a crush on me and did not want to be a booty call (after we slept together on the first night). she admitted that she never sleeps with a guy on the first date and has not dated much at all (confirmed through her friend whom I am good friends with). I told her that I liked her and that I wanted to see her again, not for just booty call.

We hung out a second time and I made a sexual advancement, but she said she wanted to keep it innocent for that date. Of course, I am looking for something more serious so I Agreed.

The third time we hung out I pushed a little (in terms of sex), and she stated that it was not a good idea since I would be keeping her up late (she had to get up 6 hours later for a long, long shift), and said we would have to wait until this coming weekend when she has a night where she doesnt work the next day.

Since then (about 4 days ago), she has taken longer to respond to texts (I only send one every 2 days or so), and never initiates texts. we were supposed to hang out last night but she said she was busy (true), and that it might have to wait until this weekend (we planned to hang out)

Well anyways, I think that she might be getting a little turned off by me trying to advance sexually with her giving her background. The last time I tried to advance sexually I stated "I dont get it, we already did this before" from which she responded "but I dont want to it be just about this".

One thing I do is assure her that it IS NOT just about that for me, although I feel like my actions have spoken louder than my words.

I dont know, what do you guys think? Do you think this a reason that girl who was interested in you can lose interest?


this is actually kind of funny, I have no problem getting a girl sexually attracted and in bed, but now that I want a relationship, I am screwing that up.

U was supposed to give her the BEST SEX EVER!!! ans next time you bang her, you gotta do just that. so, next time, she'll be doing the advances not you.. she'll be wanting you badly cuz u did it good!! u feel?

anyways, if she's acting flaky, I'd just forget about her... she'll come back...

go shopping or somethin' boost ur sex appeal to the max, this will
1) get other girls checking you out
2) make her jealous
3)make her realise that she's losing a guy that other girls want
4) by ignoring her, she'lll see that she cant have what she wants... so she'll want you even more!!

Then u take her back, n bang her

Us guys have a habit of verbalizing all our crap. "We're going to do this, we're going to do that. We did this. We did that. . . " (How sexy is this?)

Look . . .you already banged her. It's ALL in the bag already. Just roll with it. If you REALLY want your relationship with her to be more than just sex, then DEMONSTRATE it. Do you really need to fuck her at a certain time?

If she blocks your advances, just go, "OK . . . want to play a round of cards?" . . .

Laugh, have fun, then advance sexually through good relations; tease her, flirt with her, communicate with her . . .

Her legs will spread open wide . . .

Haha kasabi, i like your ending comments...her legs will spread wide open.

I that has already happened. I have worked on my persona enough that i don't have a problem accomplishing that with most women.

This is one I could possibly see myself being with though...

I know EXACTLY what you mean by verbalizing: its a by-product of over-analyzing and insecurity. Show it, don't say it.

But that is the problem; she is a rather conservative girl who I think is backing off a little because she feels she is being used, as this is what my ACTIONS have demonstrated, and actions tell all.

Next time we hang out, I Am going to have a fun time with her, and not initiate anything, she will have to initiate it. (ironically, this usually works).

Just freeze her out next time. You have to show her that it isn't about sex for you. We all like sex, but you may have to go a couple times hanging out with her without trying to initiate anything. It will build trust and then she will probably start initiating because she will want validation that you are still into her.

Lots of things done wrong there. You banged her before building enough comfort, and now she has Buyer's Remorse. However, either because she does really like you, or because she feels guilty and thinks it'll all be OK if she gets a meaningful relationship with you now, she stuck around. You're very lucky about that. You're even luckier that she stuck around this long after you continued to push against her wishes.

You need to build comfort, stat. You also need to condition her into chasing you. You have conditioned her into drawing back from your advances, and if that continues, you're in danger of having her do that for the rest of the relationship just because that's how it works for the two of you, even if she sticks around with you for a nice good while.

Be the one to initiate still, but also be the one to cut it. Dial it way back to more basic touches, like of the arm or hair. Initiate the touch, then withdraw it. When you get back to the kissing state, initiate the kisses, but also end them. As you build comfort and a real connection with her, that withdrawing will start to drive her crazy. She'll find that she dislikes it when you pull away, and you're going to begin conditioning her to chase you. That's the golden trick for girls who aren't already sexual on their own.

Just don't screw it up later by reversing it once you're laying her again. As hard as it might be for you to stop and pull back, you're going to need to do it often, and you're going to need to do it throughout the relationship. You will actually get more sex that way, and she'll be a lot hungrier for it, which will make you enjoy it more.