So a few days ago I met this solid 9 at while having lunch with some friends. Not only was she beautiful, she also had an amazing, flirty personality, and was not full of herself like many 9's are. I decided to play it cool, and it seemed to work in the beginning. There was chemistry. But somewhere down the line, I either became too cocky and not funny enough or appeared to be too interested. She did not seem to be interested in flirting and, well, initiating conversation. At that point I decided to just redeem myself after lunch when I can be in semi-isolation with her, and ask her out if she's shows signs of being interested. But she left early with her friend and I never even got that opportunity. I was so shocked at how abruptly she left I didn't even ask for her number or facebook.

I know about the dangers of one-itis, but honestly, let's face it. A girl this hot and also with a great personality that isn't superficial is hard to find these days. I talked to my (kinda drunk) friend about this, and he told me to add her on facebook. As he put it, what would I have to lose? So that's what I did. I figured out a game plan. Sent her a message saying hi while adding her, pretending to be drunk to try to justify my facebook creeping. If she ignores it, I'm fucked and there's nothing I can do about this. But I'm 95% sure she'll respond. When she does I plan to get her number so I can ask her out.

This is where I'm completely ignorant and retarded. This is the first time I've gone to such lengths for the sake of one girl. How do I carry this out successfully (from facebook to phone to asking her out) without sounding like a creep? I know the "proper PUA" thing to do is to move on and not spend so much time and energy focusing on a single girl, but I like challenges. And I believe I have the potential to make this happen, despite the fact that the odds are not in my favour. Any advice from anyone is appreciated, thanks.

Connection with her on an emotional level is the most important thing. A big newbie mistake is to try so hard to demonstrate high value that they look EXACTLY like that- trying really hard to DHV to her.

If you want her to notice, don't try to impress her as much as try to *connect* with her. If you have that kind of attitude, chances are your DHVs will be a lot smoother and more natural, and she will be more receptive to your interest.

Be clear with her that usually a girl that is as good looking as her doesn't have much personality and that the looks don't matter as much as getting to know *her*.

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