Hey all,

So this girl has been showing a lot of interest in me previously, and we still text, but whenever i come online she never initiates conversation anymore. To me this is a significant loss of interest. What should i do, or how can i get this interest back? i don't want to keep using the same push pull or freeze out tactics/lines anymore. it gets monotonous after a while.

I'm also searching for an answer for this.
How do you actually reignite the interest with girls you used to be really good friends with, but somehow dont talk much to each other anymore.
It also kind of feels weird to use the same stick on a girl, who has previously seen it, not?

you weren't a mystery any more, she figured you out and it's become boring. Better yourself, take up new hobbies, and activities, if some how girls post on your facebook often that interest might come back.

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I agree with this, maybe try doing something unpredictable or unexpected so she sees she hasn't got you figured out quite yet.

I ran into this situation with a girl- she had me pegged as this cocky/funny guy who just flirts with every girl around but doesn't make any moves on them. I got her interested again by shedding a few tears while I played guitar for her. I played it off as sheer passion and dedication but really what I did was keep my eyes open for a long enough time to dry them out and start tearing, coupled with some well-placed facial expressions. After that I kind of let her in a bit, showed her a deeper side of me by talking about some philosophical topics. Essentially I just ran some very deep rapport, something I had yet to show her.

This is something I have been seriously lacking. It applies to anyone involved in any game after an open. It's even great for salesman and can make you money or even better get you laid. I need ideas for open ended questions to get targets to talk. I can open no problem but getting them to talk is another issue I need to address.

This may be similar to establishing value. Does anyone have any good ideas on establishing value. I need help! I'm an AFC in desperate need!

-Finz

people like talking about themselves, don't ask the boring questions, let them tell you things, listen and they'll love you.

Look up being a "big cat" or how to be a big cat.

Making people feel like they have value, or honestly appreciated.

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Then again when you make them feel too much value, who's doing the chasing now?

you got it all wrong, you're job is to make people feel good about themselves, people are suppose to be happy around you. I think this is more than "game" this is more along the lines of becoming a better person and attracting people.

Try it, I'm not saying give compliments all the time, I'm saying make people feel like they have a purpose and are important.

They will be drawn to you.

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Agreed. I had a conversation about this today. Go read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Its a really old book, and an absolute necessity to any PUA. Its very underhyped tho. Basically, everyone wants to feel important. And once you get into the flow of it, YOU will feel important by making others feel important. You know those people who are always smiling? This concept is why.

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so it's just something like, saying you're ___ (slightly negative comment), but you still ___ (positive comment) kind of like push pull should i say?

Also since we're on this topic, i was wondering, what should i do if she's sad? should i offer comfort? I want to prevent entering the LJBF zone

I actually read that book in 6th grade.

The amount of free stuff people give you in retail if you are just NICE to them blows me away.

examples: waiters, give them a few compliments, sympathize with them, and you'll get a free desert, no charge for your soft drinks, and anything else they can give you for free.

Auto shop, hang out with the mechanic for an hour, let him talk about himself, suddenly the 4 hour job turns into an hour and a half and you get parts at cost.

It really does pay to be nice

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I ran across the OP's problem in my time. I pegged the problem pretty quick luckily. I recall one in the last year. It was a waitress at a bar that I became decent friends with. We went out a couple of times and she said pretty much word for word "Your lack of intrest is intriguing to me.". Like a dummy I keep rolling with lack of interest and didn't escalate. She lost that interest pretty quickly. I don't think it'd be hard to get back, but that was the issue I had.

what exactly did you do? if i may ask

To fix the problem, or what was doing to lose her interest?

Both. how did you fix the problem, and what caused her to lose interest. Cause i think i've been doing the same thing. i was thinking that maybe i kept repeating that she lost interest.