I've been recently called out for being very stuttery and that my words don't flow very well when i talk. Also when I am in a social situation, I'm told that I unintentionally shake a lot and give off a unconfident vibe.

However, I have absolutely no control over this. No matter how hard I tell myself to chill out, I'm always stuttering or shaking. Even when I think I'm feeling confident I still shake. It's like I have no self control over my body.

If any of you had a problem like this how did you fix it? Also, any advice on how to control it? I constantly socially interact with people and never had noticed I give off a nervous vibe until I've been called out.

Called out?

This person must have had quite a element of persuasion over you if they mentioned it and only now noticing these ticks:

For Posture: Alexander technique exercises
For Diction: Speak For Success Course
For Clothing: IOffer.com - look up: Armani suits get 3 for about 400 dollars (yes there fake but they look and feel great try to feel nervous in one of those )

And if your really struggling try wearing shades. YES indoors at night in the winter ; women seem to dig them and nervousness in most readily communicated via eye movement. Its only temporary until you learn via experience that the worst thing that will happen if they don't go for you is NOTHING will happen good or bad your at the same place you were when you stared.

You never get rejected you only find out if the target has good taste.

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Maybe called out isn't the right word. I've been noticing that I've been stuttering and shaking a lot but I didn't think it was affecting my game and interaction with people. It wasn't until some close friends told me that it's making me look unconfident that I realize this is something that I need to change about myself.

What is "Speak for Success Course"? Is that a book or an actual course?

Then I would suggest spend some time and money investing in you self to raise your value.

Just like if you were to spend 2000 dollars in accessory's for your TV or your car you would raise it value and make those items more appealing.

Someone comes over to your house and its like WOW that a nice TV! Or you pull up to a red light and some one is like nice wheels. You want that reaction with your body when you walk into a room

It DOES give you the advantage in the field. And with a tactical advantage how could you be nervous?

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The thing is I'm in college, not in the clubs or bars so spending money on buying fancy clothes probably won't work

These are merely suggestion that I have found helpful. Women at any age and any setting are attracted to men that take pride in their appearance. I have found that NOT blending in will work to your advantage. So you don't need to peacock in a flamboyant way (I don't. Since I'm a professional many of the targets that I interact with are in the corporate world as well so I dress very nicely in a suit and tie)

Your clothing should help convey the following feelings about your self to others:

1) Attractive
2) Healthy
3) Different
4) Comfortable

This will help your confidence in a very real and piratical way. Outer confidence starts with self-confidence. Self -confidence will lead to success that will lead to out confidence that your friends and the targets will recognize.

If suits aren't your style then feel free to go with something that reflects your personalty. But try to bear in mind the four points above when selecting your clothing.

I have a field test if you choose to accept:
Try going to a store where they sell classy clothing. You many need to look in a few different stores for this next part. Ask a strikingly beautiful lady clerk for help selecting clothing. And by beautiful I mean this is the kind of target you would get nervous in front of it you were opening a set. If possible fully developed 25 to 35 so shes not into the whole boy band gangster rap thing any more.

Don't close your self off in you request her help in any way.
Example: "Can you show me where the sweaters are?" and then take it from their where you and run off of what you think looks good.

But really lay it out there for her
Example: "I'm need help. I'm trying to my look my best to make a good impression. (she will get the drift that your going into the field to meet women) I get nervous and I think if I had some new clothing it would really help. Can you please dress me dress me to kill!"

And then sit back and WATCH these women work in an environment all day around women and they love to see men first of all. And then one with the REAL confidence to know they he needs help and wants her help in getting there. Let her dress you and see what the target selects for you. Women love to play with dolls even if there in there 20s or 30s. Keep it light keep it funny with her and engage her as best you can in conversation it to let her know how she can help. It may evolve into a bit of attraction I've had students do this exact exercise. Get some new clothing and then have this woman that they thought was out of their league offer her phone number and tell them that she would love to help them get started (womanize for: they are attracted to you and want to help you because they like you)

Just try it. Remember if you do what you always have done you will receive the results you have always been getting.

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