Well, I met this great girl. I really like her. I first met her in the bank where I work and we just had a general conversation about her accounts etc etc. So I was basically doing my job and helping her out. That same day, when I was in the middle of going home I got an email from her which was a greeting card which said Happy New Year and all the best for the New Year etc etc. I sent something similar back to her, just to be polite. She was a client after all.

One week later I saw her again and she had some more questions so we talked again for a little while. While we were talking I remembered I still had to get her phone number to complete her profile in the database of the bank. So she gave it to me. That evening I got an email which said:

Now that you have my phone number you can always send me a message or call me.

So I did and I got to know her a little better. She got sick at one point and I send her messages like take care etc etc. At one point she started calling me sweety!!! But here is where the problem is. I've tried asking her out on several occasions but she always has an excuse. So that's where I'm stuck. I'm getting a little bit frustrated over this so I want your opinions. What have I done wrong in the process and what should my next step be? (Pretty new to all of this, sorry for the long post!) I really like her but I've got a feeling I'm being played here

Could you post some examples of the ways you've been asking her out? If it was framed too formally, she might be unreceptive despite the IOIs.

Good that you agree they were IOI's. I was not sure if they were.

I just asked it actually:

'want to go for a drink on saturday?'
'want to go out for dinner'

Just something like that.Was that wrong?

Dude your probably not thta close to her yet and as far as i can see you haven't gamed her AT ALL! that is prbably the reason

As stated before I'm new to this and here to learn something. Question is, how do I game her if I'm not going out with her? Seems a bit hard to do no? Besides I've must have done some game accidentaly because I don't see why she would give me those IOI's then.

Well, I started to think about it. This is the first girl I really liked after I broke up with my ex so I think I may have come on a little needy! That is probably the main reason!

Well, I didn't get it solved with this girl but something important happened! I discovered there are more girls out there than just two I like!

Opened up a girl at the gym yesterday and a three set on the way home on the bus. It's not that much but it's a start.