if you want the long story read this class-girl-is-it-over-vt59933.html

I was seeing a HB7 from above and she told me it was over cuz I dint build enough comfort. Now after I made it clear we weren't going to be friends and that I was going to go to another girl shes started texting me today and replying to my facebook status updates. here are the texts:

HB: are you doing okay?

crono: I'm sorta pissed that I'm going to be late for work but I'm doing ok. How are you doing?

HB I'm good I was wondering because you seemed upset on Thursday about HB8 (the other girl) and stuff. How did you wind up late for work?

*crono works for 4 hours*

Crono: The bus was too full so the driver drove by

HB: Aw jerk

This seems positive to me but I'm not going to respond to the last text till tomorrow maybe. Was I right to ignore the whole other girl thing? and does this mean I still got a shot at her?

i took the time to read the longer post and a few little things may have stopped you

personally i do think you gave away to much that you wanted her. the first day to study, you probably shoulduv held off on the whole kissing, and just built up comfort. you dont want to look like you are chasing her (although most guys want to its natural) instead build interest, talk on a good level and connect with her first. maybe this day you should have just studied then talked purely as friends

my other thought

when you started to do stuff, and she implyed for you to stay the night you shouldnt have. 1) you jumped through her hoop and didnt give her one to do aswell 2) if you leave, she will miss your company, no matter what you did, and would inviste more time in you

now these things are not for sure, they are my thoughts. i dont no the girl but its just my idea of the situation. i feel that it was good to avoid the other girl topic as well and you deff still have a chance with the one you made out with. you need to build more casual comfort, be funny joke around and tease, but dont push for anything. ask her to lunch, and be flirty friends, and things may spark up again

best of luck
mR.e

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Hey thanks for the reply.
I think you're right I badly missread the situation. Ill keep the casual flirting stuff going.

The girl from above actually has 2 girl friends in class. I was planing to ask them tomorrow to my bud's birth day on sat night. If it works I want to try and play the jealousy card and get them all jealous and fighting over me. If not ill pull a well your loss, and changed the facebook profile pic to a shot of that night and talk about how great it was.

that isnt a bad strategy mate not bad at all just keep in mind that you need to keep the comfort good. connect with them, then pull things like that once you have them hooked (and longer hooked then just a few min, BUILD the comfort up)

you will do fine, be natural and if things fall apart a little be friendly and they will still like you. things can almost always work it if you play if off right

mR.e

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Things dint go as smoothly as I had hoped. The girl I was seeing gave me some IOI like talking into my ear and leaning over to touch shoulders when i talked to her.

She kept bringing up one of her friends who I'm also interested in, asking me if I like her and such things. I always responded with I don't know I don't know her well enough yet.

When we got to her car she got really despondent and now I have no idea what to think cuz she was "in a bad mood about something in class" but she seemed fine before hand. I tried to keep everything positive with funny stories and stuff. But when I told her of the party she dint seem responsive. I also told her we could grab a bunch of people for a movie night sometime but she turned it around and said she would find the movie she wanted online.

So now I don't even know what to think. Any ideas about how to get renewed interest?

well things can be tough but you can turn it around

now if you really want to invest time, you are gonna have to go 1 on 1 with her, if you dont want to put in the effort you might just wanna leave this situation all together. if you do wanna invest more time, she might be getting disapointed because you are not connecting with her and investing time. this doesnt mean do what she wants, but this means that instead of group things, do things just with her. talk to her more, try and really connect with her on things she will like, and match your frame with hers as much as you can (link to what i concider the best way to learn how to match a girls frame: http://www.the21convention.com/2009/09/ ... t21c-2009/ ) and put the effort to ask her things she wants to do, and maybe go out of your way to do it a little. say things like "your a lucky one i RARELY do this for girls but im feeling rather nice today and i love spending time you" things like this show that you arnt a tool, but i are still showing interest as well as a compliment. now along the lines of a tool, if she wants you to do things for her all the time..this can lead to bad things. if you go with that, you will start to become whipped. be careful not to do to much, but once you do something for her make her invest in you right after. example of this, for me i went on a date with a girl and brought her to my house after. just chatting and watching movies, i said "i give the greast back massages" her natural response "ahh you should give me one pleasseeee" i knew i would, but i needed to make sure i kept things equal on both ends, so i said "alright i will. but wait..you massage me first missy then we will switch " hesitant at first, she complained a little that she sucks then i said "when we switch, it will be worth it trust me" putting in the TRUST ME part is key to building comfort and i suggest you try and do it in situations. after that, she did, then i did, then i got a kiss on the cheek just for how good it was. then the rest if for your imagination

i hope this is helpful mate, the things i said are true but can be hard to apply to girls because it really does require a little bit of genuine effort which can be hard at times, but can be worth it aswell

goodluck
mR.e

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Wow that link with the video is amazing going to have to bookmark that.

I ended up not calling her for the party, drank too much. I think I may text her tomorrow about something fluffy ("what day is that thing for class due?"). I know when its due I just want to use that false choice thing and get her invested. I think if she responds back with "bla bla bla next week" ill ask if she has started it. If she hasn't ask if she wants help with: "Hey I know this great search tool for the articles we'll meet up and I can show you but only if you do something for me". Haven't thought about what the something for me is yet.

This stuff is really helping my mental game. Ill go for some pre-selection on Thursday too and we will see how it goes.

Any thoughts about what she can do for me to get her invested and to meet up with me?