Hi!


I know there are more guys in the forum looking for help, but I am a girl, 25 years old, who needs your advice.


I was at an online dating site, where I got an email from a guy named Martin. Two days later we telephoned the first time for two hours, then he visited me stayed overnight and the second night we had very cool sex.

Then I left the town for 5 days, we had contact via sms messages but he never called me back and at the end of the 5 days didn’t even answer my messages. The after three more days he suddenly wrote an sms he is back in town and wants to visit me. Then I didn’t answer for two days because I thought he is too annoying. Then in the middle in the night he wrote me an message, saying it’s a pity that I don’t answer. Then we explained everything to each other via messages and I told him I don’t want to see him anymore.

The same night I felt lonely and sent him a message “do you want to come over?”. After 30 seconds I got an answer, he was astonished but that he comes to me. Then we had very cool sex again. He wrote me a nice message afterwards and next day I wrote him a message if we want to meet again. After 15 minutes I got an answer he has time the next day. After 6 hours I wrote back next day would be fine and at what time he wants to come. After that he AGAIN didn’t answer or call me.

We should have met today.

I need your help! Is there a way that I am not constantly waiting for his messages or calls. I would like to meet him 2-3 times a week to have sex.


Do you have any tips for me also for the future maybe with other guys?

Thank you for your help because I don’t know what to do any more.

Yours,
Lonely Woman

The situation is not uncommon... We have all been there with the roles reversed. Or done it ourselves.

As a guy I know more or less what the guy is thinking. He got what he wanted, he feels safe. He came over for the physical pleasure. There is a difference between love and sex. Or emotional attachment and pleasure if you like.

So sadly, it appears that he is not as much into you as you thought. He likes you but he doesnt wanna have any strings attached. I would say dump him and go for the next.

I had a similar experience, I was out with a girl, one thing led to sex... And she became needy. She kept texting me and so on for like a week. Even though I liked her she was too on. That was a huge turnoff. To send a text message the day after is cool but dont milk it. If he feels like he is avoiding to answer or if he just sends you short replies its a sign that you need to take a step back and relax it a bit. He feels pressured. Not good! Its like you expect stuff that he is not willing to give... yet...

So advice for the future, read his signals. Try to understand him as well. Men actually have feelings too. Ok, the most important ones being horniness, sleepiness and hunger but we do have others.
You didnt reply because he annoyed you, reverse that thinking, maybe that was his reason too.

Ezo