| I posted up about this same girl before and now have a different question that I'm hoping to get some help with.
I dated a girl 4 years ago for 2 years (we broke up 2 years ago). She was my fiancée when we split and basically split because we were in 2 different points in our lives. I’m 4 years older than her, met her when she was 21. I was in the middle of my “go out and party every night” stage and she was just starting hers. Toward the end of our relationship I was done going out all the time and she was right in the middle of still wanting to go out every night. So, that is basically what broke us up, just wanted to communicate that we didn’t split because of anything major like cheating or anything like that. We each dated other people and she just got out of a 1.5 year relationship about 3 months ago. We didn’t talk much over the last couple of years until recently. Right around when she broke up with her LTR I broke up with a girl I was seeing and we began talking again. We have hung out a few times and I have ended up back at her place a couple of times and slept in the same bed, nothing happened, just stayed there. This last time we hung out we went to diner and then to a bar and ended up making out a couple of times. Went back to her place and neither of us made a move on the other so nothing happened in terms of sex or anything. The next day she text me and told me that she had just talked to her sis who lives back east and had told her what happened between us the night before. She said that her sister told her that we should get back together and that I should come with her next month when she takes a trip back east to see them (when we were together we use to go back and visit her sister quite a bit, I became good friends with her sis and her sisters husband). She then said, I told my sister that I asked you to come with me last night and you said “yeah right” (I don’t remember her asking me this). I told her that if she was serious that I would go with, it would be fun. She said yeah, totally serious. So we made plans to take this trip. So the next part is what I need help with….
I don’t know what is going through her head right now, I don’t know if she is wanting to get back together or if she is even entertaining the thought. I would like to get back together with her eventually, but I want to do it right. I don’t want to rush stuff and I want to make sure that I am in the Alpha position and have complete control over what is going on. What I don’t want is to get myself in a position to where I come down with oneitis or am following her around like a little puppy dog. I’m not sure how I should take what is going on, although I did initiate the kissing, she definitely reciprocated in a major way. If she wasn’t interested would she have reciprocated, the next day would she have invited me on a 5 day trip with her if she didn’t like what went on or didn’t have some sort of interest? Also, would she tell me how her sister said that we should get back together? Or am I reading way too much into all of this and none of it means anything?
My dilemma at this point is how to act between now and this trip in 4 weeks. I have not asked her to hang out since the whole make out outing. She has text me a few times and I have text her a few. I’ve deliberately ignored a few of her texts to try and convey that I’m not at her beck and call and am busy. But beyond that, should I have nothing to do with her until we take this trip, should I only respond to texts calls and not initiate any of my own? I don’t want to freeze her out and then have her loose any interest she has, but at the same time, I want her to want ME and need some help with how I should be acting toward her.
Any and all help with this is greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!!
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