Recently i've been dating a girl who is a bit younger than me and a lot less experienced... As in she has NO experience at all! I don't mind taking things slowly with her but no matter what I do she just keeps telling me everything makes her feel uncomfortable. So far we've been on 3 dates and I did stay at her house 1 time but she wouldn't let me do anything more than kissing and after a lot of work a little bit of titty squeezing. She also has very low self esteem despite being a very beautiful girl and is very against me seeing her naked.

How can I get her to relax more and just go with the flow?

Btw for the record I'm not just trying to "steal" this girls virginity, I wouldn't want her to do anything I thought she would regret, I just want her to relax and feel more comfortable.

Take it super slow. I recently screwed up something for going too fast. Don't force anything if she says no or is reluctant just say ok and limit yourself to stuff she is more comfortable with (kissing or just hand holding).

That said do test boundaries see what she will let you do and if she says no about something wait a week or two and see if she will let you.

Learning how to be good at massage therapy will relex her and let her be more comfortable with you putting your hands all over her. Also, every PUA should learn about where all the erogenous zones are which will give you a great advantage at knowing how to turn her on.

Virgins are people too... I would suggest you do as you always do... But maybe if she seems nervous dont fiddle around being nervous yourself. Feel secure, calibrate, give her a feeling of that you know what you are doing!

Hehe this a sweet post

You might not be able to solve this one by yourself. When I was a virgin I was a little suprised about how ok I was walking around naked and I prefer if the lights are on

3 dates isn't enough my friend - try about 7!!! She will back off if she feels that all you want it sex (not every woman will of course) but it sounds like she will.

For the moment just back off - just make sure there is a lot of comfortable stoking, hugging, touching. It might take a long time to do this - could be like 2 months so let her go if you are not willing to give this time.

Massage is gooooood but not every woman responds the same of course. I will let practically anyone massage me becuase it doesn't have an erotic effect on me it's intimate but not sexual - it's just very pleasurable is a totally different way - heaven!! Other women will find it uncomfortable no matter who's doing it -they might have very senstive skin that tickles easily.

Is she religious by any chance? What has her upbringing been like? And how old is she?

Ok so maybe I should have said I'm kind of on a tight time schedule. I will only be in the city this is all happening in for a week, maybe 2 max. So if sex is off the cards that's not so bad but I would at least like to enjoy the time I have left with her.

As for her she is 18 and I am 23. She's not really religious at all and I would say she does want to have a sexual relationship with me, it's just the comfort thing in the way.

I was trying to make her feel the fun exciting side of doing something outside of your comfort zone but so far it hasn't really worked.

Female*artist... There is massage and Massage...

I massage a lot of my friends since I have taken some courses in it and like to keep my skills up but it is not the same as a massage you want to lead somewhere else.

On the other hand... If you start there you already know that she is into you and just have problems with the transition between no physical contact and a lot.

And by "you" I mean guys...

She's 18 and hasn't done it yet, and she hasn't been saving herself just to give it up to a guy she's only known for a few days and that's about to skip town. I've been with at least 2 virgins, that I know of. In both cases, it took being A) in a committed relationship with them, and B) several weeks into that, and a lot of making out and leaving them wanting more, before they finally felt secure "going there."

And I think that in both cases they had already decided that they were ready as soon as the right guy came along. So timing played a part.

As always, there are exceptions. But I'd say this is what they call in sports a "low percentage play."