Sorry this is probably the wrong place to post this but it seems that I don't have a sufficient post count to post it in the proper forums.

I've been dating this girl for about two years and although I truly love her I feel that we are becoming more and more like friends and less and less like lovers. She was the first time that I actually used some of the PUA techniques that I had been reading about and it worked (initially) - but as I mentioned things aren’t the same any more. We've both had our own share of issues and stresses lately; I was let go from my job and as we met at work and she still worked there she followed soon thereafter. With this among other personal issues we each needed to take care of we both started to become more distant and pre-occupied with putting out the various fires in our own lives and began getting frustrated at each others’ lack of attention.

This began in early December and has been progressing on and off since then and I feel that it has reached a point where we both feel that we need to take a break. I really care and love this woman but I want to be the one that calls the shots and calls for the break rather than being the follower. As an aside I’ve found it to be difficult to act the alpha part since by nature I am a mix of alpha and beta while she is a pure alpha woman - at times I know I’ve failed and let her lead - especially during major stress I simply didn’t want to fight it - which in retrospect I shouldn’t have done, I should have been more “I’m going to do this … would you like to come”. I’m almost positive that if I don’t do it she will in the next few days, does anyone have any suggestions on how to “win” the break-up and actually appear more alpha & attractive because of it? How would you go about bringing up taking a break, especially if you know that it’s in her mind too? a

Thanks again,
Matt

You may need to think about what you want mate because from what it sounds like your trying to get over her and dump her but at the same time trying to attract her

hey bud. its tough sometimes when you are doing the PUA stuff, especially when you are new, to know under what situations you need to let it drop and be direct with a girl.

you didnt say how old you were but after 2 years you should really be able to talk to this girl, especially about things like what you want out of the relationship.

you say you love her, but if you really love her for who she is, you should know her well enough to be able to talk to her directly and know how she will handle it.

way i see it, you need to decide if you want a break, or to break up. then sit down with her and be very clear about what you want, what you see your future is with her, and what you feel. and then listen to her side. you may find you both want the same thing. or you may find it is time to part, but either way you will remain the "alpha" by taking charge of the situation, and thats the best position you can be in even if she really wants to end it.

good luck.