Considering this is important part of what attracts women, how far is it in our power to control?

Depends on whosse model for personality you go on and what you want to change about your personality. Frued said no however Jung believed that peoples personality was forever changing.... however one of the points Mystery, Style and the other Guru's discussed in the came where trying to put across was that there are only confident and unconfident people

I agree with Jung. Your personallity changes by each event you witness. No matter how big or small the event. Also, your personallity changes when you hang out with different people. If you hang out long enough with A, then you will most likly start to act like A untill it's just a part of your personallity.

So, in a way you can control your personallity change. Hang out with the right people (right as in, for the personallity you want).

But I also believe you can change your personallity by reading books or whatever. Though not just by reading them, but by using that information in your own life.

The latter will be harder, as you will have to force it upon yourself. This takes a strong will. Though I do think everyone can do it.


The human body is an extremly awesome machine. Not just physical, but also mentally. It always adapts and keeps adapting! Don't confine yourself by what people believe is possible, think past the boxes.