| So here's the deal: my friend Amanda, my ex-oneitis HB 8 (well ex for the most part..), and myself are all driving down to a major party this weekend. This is to celebrate my friend Amanda's 21st birthday. I'm sort of on the fence as to how to handle the situation with said HB 8 semi-ex oneitis.
Basically the back story is that I've been into HB 8 for awhile since we madeout the Halloween before last (super AFC time). Eventually, we ended up going out on two awesome dates, but on the second one she pulled the "I don't want a relationship blah blah blah" bullshit speech deal. This was three weeks ago, give or take. I told her flat out that I felt a strong connection with her and wasn't interested in being just friends (sorta think I fucked this up in retrospect, but it blind-sided me). A few days later, she texted me and I asked her straight up whether that speech of hers meant she didn't want a relationship period or just not one with me. She said it was the first so I said I'd be fine with just seeing each other casually. Now, a few days later we went to a bar and I was pushed away when escalating the kino. She said she was drunk and not thinking right, so I pulled off and went back to my friends for a bit. This was a huge DQ for me, I hate that indecisive bullshit. I would have gamed some women but the place was empty.
Earlier this week I met my ex (different ex) at the mall and got a k close. Now, the reason we broke up was because we had just been dating a month and she was moving 3 hours away for school (she said she was falling in love with me, blah blah blah). She ended up initiating the k close, but she pushed me away after about 30 seconds saying that she has a boyfriend at the moment, though things aren't good. Apparently she's going to the same college I'm currently attending for her graduate degree. Anyway, I gave her my number and told her to call me when she moved so we could hang out sometime. This was even more of a push against my ex-oneitis.
Anyway, so the three of us are riding down. Now, I've pretty much made up my mind that I don't want a relationship with HB 8. She's too indecisive and I know she's seeing another dude though it's purely physical. However, I'm not sure if I want to leave it how it is, or whether I want to try to push the physical aspect and leave it there for now. I know she likes me, the sexual tension is fucking painful, and whenever we're around each other she stares at me. Her body language is a complete 180 from everything that comes out of her mouth, it's annoying. On the ride down there I'm thinking of framing up the rest of the evening. I sort of think I could work in the meeting with the ex (show her that she's not my only option) and throw in the I hate wishy-washy women deal. I know this sounds forced, but I'm good at the conversation aspect, and I can make almost anything seem natural to a certain degree. I figure I do that, and mixed with laughter, the ride down sets the frame and the tone for the rest of the night.
It's the party itself I'm unsure of. Now, we're riding down 3 hours to the house of four of my good friends. They always have awesome parties, and I've been able to kclose, even before I started into all of this. I figure I open a few sets in front of her, build attraction with almost every chick I meet, and maybe escalate to a dance or two. This is the part I'm struggling with. Do I try with a super hot girl who I could possible close (maybe even fclose though I'm still a virgin) or do I break off and work on HB 8? There's going to be a ton of really smoking chicks at this party, and I'm seriously considering just going for the one day close. So what should I do? Should I plant all the seeds I can and then makeout with HB 8, and then tell her the cards are on her table. Or should I just game the place and see what happens? The oneitis in me thinks that the whole relationship deal with HB 8 is because I came off too strong and she doesn't know what she wants. The PUA in me know that I could show her what she wants, and that I could rock her world. I didn't game her right at first, and I'm not sure how I should continue. Any suggestions?
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