Hello, guys. This is a two-part question which I'm sure you've been faced with and have answered before, but I simply can't work around it, so I need some help.

Last night I went to a party with some friends, ready to game every girl in there. Things were going so well and I #closed 4 HBs. Anyway, there's this one girl who's a friend of a friend, HB8. She's really forward, has really high self-esteem and is probably used to having every guy want her. I've never gamed her since she's a friend and we hang out every now and then. She's been really into me and basically tried throwing her self at me, and I've ignored her and played it cool because I don't want to mess up.

Last night we went to a night club after the party and she tried dancing with me all night but I pulled away. At the end of the night she took my hands and walked off with me and told me she wanted me so bad. I said "that's nice" because I froze up. I'm actually really attracted to her and want her pretty bad, but when I feel I'm not in control I freeze up and panic. She got sad/pissed and walked off and ignored me from there on.

Anyway, I've decided now I want her and will go for it, but I don't know how to mend what I've done. Was thinking of texting her today but don't know what to write. Never been in this situation before. Being C&F or overly confident won't work since our relationship is obviously in a bad place right now and being overly sincere will scare her off, I think.

So, first question, what do I do? Second, how can I overcome my fear of pulling the trigger? In set I'm really confident, but as soon as I lose control I freeze.

Thanks for any answers.

It's not pulling the trigger.

You need to be comfortable not being in control.




Whatever you do, don't text her.

call her up and arrange something in the lines of:

"i want to see you this week, what day is best for you?"