Hi all!

I have read this forum about half year and now its time to post first message. Thank you for a very nice forum. I have learned much from there.

I try to keep this short. I met that girl about one year ago and we were seeing about five months. She lives outside town, so we were able to see only once in every two or three weeks. She was texting me almost every day and we had sex every time we met.

But then it happened. Suddenly she cut down texting etc. At this point I became too needy and I kept on texting her too often. After one month she texted that she dont want relationship at the moment, but still wants to see me.

I kept on texting her about once or two times a week while she was travelling etc. We had to meet, but every time she had some reason to cancel it. Then I finally (too late) understood the situation and cut down all communications. Three weeks later she initiated msn conversation. After that we had some convos and she said that she wants to see me, when they visit in the town (Christmas party). But it happened again. When I texted her, she said that she had to leave the town because she was very tired and she is very sorry because of that. She also asked how was my evening, but I ignored it. Now she have initiated msn convos many times. I tried to be totally calm and kept convos short every time.

Now I'm lost what to do next? She had flaked many times so I dont think its good idea to suggest meeting. I know this was a kind of one-itis situation, but I think its not any more. I have had other girls and I know there is nothing special with that one. But still I want to try to get at least friends with benefits relationship with her. I have tried to be always sexual, so I think she have clue that "meeting" means sex.

Thanks for any advice. (and sorry for my grammar mistakes)

Two words
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Just stop talking to her, stop texting and stop Instant messaging. You shouldn't allow her the power to control you.

Thx. As I said, I made that once getting quite good results (she started to initiate msn conversations etc). So maybe I should do that again. But what should I do after that? If I freeze her out, lets say for few weeks, what to do after that?

After a few weeks/days(depending on how much she keeps trying to get in contact with you),WHEN SHE STARTS A CONVERSATION via text or IM ect, you need to be the proactive one and make plans when you two should meet, you are allowing her to be the one in charge(fuck that). Be assertive and tell her (not ask) when you guys are gonna hang out, and if she bails and doesn't show up move on!