I'm dating a girl with a few intimacy problems. We're getting along pretty well, but in some ways she's trying to push me away because she's leaving the area in a couple months and has commitment issues anyway.
I actually have some of my own problems with sex and intimacy, and she knows this. Recently, however, she suggested I should buy some condoms and we talked and agreed to slowly work together on our issues using a technique called Sensate Focus.
Now, a couple weeks ago she slept over at my place. We didn't attempt to have sex, but ended up talking all night because we couldn't sleep. This week she was really tired and had a ton of crap to do and was stressed out, so the excuse for not staying over after our various dates was that she needed the rest. Then NYE came, we had a great night together but she made me take her home.
We had lunch Friday, and I was going out with some friends that night so I figured she'd have the time to rest... later she texted me while I was out drinking, and said she slept pretty much all day. I was saying she should come over today, and we could either go out or just lounge around watching movies... and she just sent me a text saying she doesn't want to come over.
So basically, she's choosing staying home and doing nothing ALONE instead of staying at my place and doing nothing WITH ME.
I'm guessing she's still trying to push me away because of her commitment/intimacy issues, but this seems a bit much.
So the question is do I let her know that I'm annoyed/angry about this? Do I just freeze her out? Do I just ask straight out if she doesn't want to come over because she doesn't want to try that Sensate Focus thing?
EDIT: Oh, and the other thing is that she knows a friend of mine, and his 3 year old daughter, will be moving in with me in a week so our actual chances to have alone time together are going to decrease dramatically.
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