I ask because I do not think I am a bad looking guy, but I do have a problem with my hair. I am nineteen and have a receding hairline...big time. I have remedied this situation by wearing a fedora when I go out (which I suppose is a bit of peacocking as well), but I am afraid if I meet someone with my hat on, they will not be attracted to me with my hat off. How much of the game is looks?

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Now I can finally be myself 'cause I don't want to be myself.

you need to work on inner game. I recomend buying david D's man transformaton DVD. Spend the money because you will benefit a lot.

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Walk Hard

Looks don't matter bro! I learned that the hard way over months and months of bullshit

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Nothing more sexy then a tiger!

Look means a LOT

If you're a normal guy with no game, looks determine everything.

And to some girls, looks mean EVERYTHING.

I know from experience.

I've been totally rejected by the SAME GIRLS I got with 2 years later when I got "hot" (lost weight, better hair etc)

I, personally, won't date a girl who isn't hot even if she's the most perfect girl ever and makes my days so much better and can talk to her for hours on end.

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looks don't mean a alot. Obviously if its something that you can fix, then go ahead and fix it. But a receding hairline is just unavoidable to a certain extent. Don't worry about it, work on your inner game and you will see improvements. One of my friends has a receding hairline, he's 22 and not the greatest looking of guys, but he does get plenty of women cause he's confident.

Oh and if you're a guy with "no game" looks will do very little for you. Women consider me attractive, about 2 years ago I had women approaching me based on my looks, and I never picked up any of them. They get put off once they realise how much of an AFC I am (in other words, I had looks, but no game whatsoever.).
uh, this was a while ago now, so i've learnt from my mistakes now.

Yes, you're kind of right.

I remember when I had no game and girls would talk to me because of my looks and then I'd "work" for months to get with them and I'd end up in the friendzone because I was too nice and too into her.

:/

But, ultimately, looks get you in places - trust me.

Looks get you farther in life not only in Pick up.

I get hired at some jobs like Lifeguard etc simply because I'm extremely good looking and I have abs of steel.

I noticed a pattern with lifeguards - they're almost always hot.

Same when I worked at Brunswick, they hired only good looking people.

If you're not good looking, at least get a killer body or be confident or wear emo hair to disguise your ugly face.

There's a lot of tricks.

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Looks do matter. Are they everything? No. But they do matter never the less as it is the FIRST thing a girl sees when you approach her.

That really depends on where you want to go in life. As there are areas where looks can help you, but in other areas where looks won't help you and in some cases being attractive can hurt you.

Wait, what?

I don't understand how being good looking would be bad...

o.O

Even as a librarian or a nuclear physicist or w/e it's still preferred.

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the looks don't matter so much in terms of natural looks. you just gotta clean yourself up.

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Every Saint has a Past, Every Sinner has a Future

If you are a handsome guy than of course it helps you to get " attention " from the girls and also helps you to start a conversation with them. You have a quality they find attracted to.
But however, because " the opening conversation " is just a piece in the puzzle ( important though ), the ability of beeing a guy who can lead that conversation into a much more meaninfull context is the one who has better succes with women.
For example: Lets assume that there is a guy A and guy B.
The guy A has the looks but is pretty bad when it comes to conversation. So when girls notice and comes to talk to him its like having a tool in your hand without knowing how to use it. They first found this guy attractive because he had a quality they were interested at. But after a few min. conversation they find out that he has a lack of confidence and humour so it eats the value they gave for his look.
Now lets take a look at the guy B.
He has a escapeing hair line and is an average looking guy but he has the ability to show his confindence and just beeing comfortable around the women. The women never really showed any interest before he opened them but now due to his good conversation skills he is able to succeed better with the whole problem compared to guy A.
You have two cakes. One looks amazing but under the surface it tastes like crap and the other one aint as good looking as the first cake but tastes like a piece of heaven. When you start wondering whether eating the first cake ( gorgeus from the outside but tastes like crap from the inside ) or the second one ( not as good looking as the first one but tastes very good ) i think we all prefer the second one if we want to eat the whole cake and not just look at it over a night.

So focus on your inner game and dont let your appearance affect your social skills when thinking wheter approaching a girl / girls or not. Girls tend to appreaciate guys more who has better credibility than look. After all, she wants to feel safe and have fun with you instead of putting you behind the glass cabinet.

[ Johnny B ]

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When you lose, don't lose the lesson. ~Author Unknown
Fear has a large shadow, but he himself is small. ~Ruth Gendler

looks may matter in like da first few seconds you meet a girl but u have about 30 more seconds after that to show her dat your looks don't matter. Guys judge by looks way more than girls. Most girls look into personality and feelings always remember that.

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Datboykenan...damn

Indeed, looks matter. But even if the guy looks like, say Brad Pitt, and that feature of his persona grabs the ladies attention, if he as a person isn’t able to keep that fragile attention then … he will just crash and burn.

Girls are generally looking for more than looks. For example, it’s not that common a girl to want sex on a first date. Why? Because girls need to be attracted to the person behind the looks, they often tend to combine sex with feelings, and as we all know (I choose to believe that we do) feelings aren’t attached to looks but to personality.

I don’t feel completely right to talk in such a general way about all girls, since they are all different.

It’s a simple fact that looks are just the first impression that we give to people and also that first impressions can easily be wrong. If looks were the words and personality were to be the actions… I guess we can guess what speaks louder.

Cheers
Jez

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If looks matter, women wouldnt sleep around with so many ugly men

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Lets see if I can explain this. As much as people like attractive people there are people that hate people that are more attractive than they and so they hate such people. These people will/may do things to those that are more attractive than they just because the other person is more attractive than they. For example last night at my work there was this very attractive russian girl. She was certainly a head turner. Various girls where dishing out insults on her looks just because she was more attractive than they. Hopefully you get what I am saying, its not the best way to describe it.