Hey guys I'll get straight into it and start with some background information about myself.

I've always, always, always (and i know this sounds bad) seen online dating as a lesser form of meeting people. At around easter time I fell out of a relationship and I suppose out of loneliness, instead of getting back on the horse started talking to some girl online for company. It started off just as a pass-time but gradually got more serious. This girl had a boyfriend but he was older and it was a long distance thing so she had her insecurities and I suppose she too started talking to me for similar reasons. After talking over a period of time we arranged for her to visit me over this Christmas as we live a long way apart, i.e separate countries.

Over the summer she lost her virginity to her boyfriend (I think at the back of her mind knew we had feelings for each other) and I explained to her that I was hurt by it. A month or 2 later I threw it out in the open how I felt about her and we had a small argument about our situation and her not being able to just end a relationship for someone she met online (I would have said the exact same thing), anyway, we got past this and our bond strengthened. Eventually she admitted to loving me and the last couple months have be amazing, I have never even felt this close to girls who I've practically lived with, we're both complete tools when it comes to expressing ourselves but we're able to do it with each other.

My problem started this week, she was more distant lately and i suppose i was too, we had both been shafted by university work and were under stress. I really needed her company on monday but she completely ignored me. I felt alone but went out with my friends to try and keep myself sane, I almost ended up with a one night stand but blew it. I told the girl i'd been talking to about it because I felt I needed to be honest and then she hit me with it.

She told me that there can never be an 'us', that it wont ever work out and she wants to be left alone. Obviously I assumed what I said had triggered this but she told me that she has been thinking about this for a while and doesn't want anyone depending on her and doesn't want to depend on anyone. This isn't what really worries me.

She said that she is leaving her university, her family and her country to just be alone. She isn't telling anyone where she is going and I'm worried sick.

I really don't know what to do about this, she gets frustrated with me when I try to talk because she doesn't want to talk to anyone, she genuinely wants to be left alone for the forseeable future.

I'm upset because I wanted us to be together and terrified for her.

I'm sorry if I rambled guys but I just feel lost.

Neediness is unattractive. Trying to call her all the time when she wants to be alone converts to you being needy. I don't know you or your circumstance but getting this involved in a long distance, internet based relationship is kind of weak.

She will be fine. Move on and find a girl that you can fuck on a regular basis. I'd suggest finding 3-4 girls but I have the feeling you might get attached to the first girl that comes along. Well good luck...but I'd leave that girl alone for a while. It's the only chance you have to really talk to her again...

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