I met this girl at a party (let's call her Ana) and we started chatting most of the nite through but didn't change numbers.

About a week later we met again in a niteclub and went back to mine along with the rest of the people she was with. In the end she stayed over and we kissed and fondled about (no full close) the whole nite.

After that we would send some texts back and forth (but never inttending on a day 2) and we'd meet later again during the week. This time i stayed over hers. 2 nites later, i stayed over hers one more time.

So, in a week we had this wild crazy rollercoaster of a ride. But then suddenly it just felt like something was not there.

I started reading up on some stuff and I figured she must have had some buyer's remorse. I figured we moved from attraction -> seduction, skipping the comfort stage massively. I really like her, and I think she knows it.

Ana knows I meet many other women on a nite out (she's called me a player/womanizer on some occasions - i took them as shit tests) and in 2 nites she was out as well as I was I unknowingly and drunkenly kissed a girl next to her, when the whole time I was just trying to build comfort with Ana.

I was thinking of calling her up and putting it straight: "We went a bit too fast, and I want to get to know you better first. Let's meet up bla bla.."

Please.. help

There's a few details I skipped out, just so I didn't create a wall of text..but I will give more details later. Thanks!

the whole ides of comfort is to allow you to get to know a girl, and to let a girl get to know you. This is so she doesnt think that youre just trying to sleep with her etc, and she will be more likely to sleep with you... i know... counter-intuitive right??

But back to the point... by the sounds of things you went from attraction in the club, to more attraction and then seduction at home, so yeah, you completely missed out on the comfort stage.

If youd just been going for the F-close then it wouldnt be an issue, but because youve seen her again and still not got into comfort, shes thinking 'wtf did i do? i dont even know this guy'. For that reason, the chances of you going into a proper relationship with her arent great, id just move on and learn from it mate... thers plenty more opportunitues to get it right.