I met this girl a while ago. We got along great, dated for a bit at first. I got emotionally interested in her, got to love her and we started a relationship.

From that point on it went bad. She turned inward emotionally, and away from me. After about 3 months of this bad situation she dumped me. I wasn't too shocked at it, at that point. It was already obvious for me it wouldn't work out.

We remained to have friendly conversation via MSN. This girl really meant something to me, and I still think she is great. Just last week, about a month after we broke up we decided to see each other again. It was a fun night of playing billiards in a local pub. Her birthday was a couple days later and I went, as a friend.

Then we said we would meet at my house to watch a movie. That day however she cancelled with the explanation that she was 'exhausted from drinking with friends the night before'. I felt genuinely angry and disappointed agreed to see her two days later. One day later however she called me from down town asking whether I wanted to see her. I snapped, I got mad at her for not realizing that I was angry at her in the first place and that I wanted to meet her somewhere were we could just chill and talk, instead of her going to be drunk all night and likely cancel our plans for the next day.

Obviously this did not go well with her, and I did went out of line. Today I went to her place (she didn't want to come to my place any more) and apologized for lashing out. Not only did she not accept my apologies, she also said that she did not understand I got mad in the first place and said that not showing up on a date or appointment is something that she just does because of her character sometimes and that I should just accept it. When I explained how I felt she told me I was misinterpreting her and being to complicated, even though she asked for the explanation.

To add some perspective. This girl is extremely impulsive, It's what I love about her. I don't think there are many other people that can help me get the sense of adventure and novelty that being with her usually gives me, even if it's not on a relationship or seduction level. I do not necessarily have to fuck or get in a relationship with this girl again. But I'll be dammed if I let any personal interaction end on somebody else's turns but mine. I know that at least her single best friend and another ex-boyfriend have had the same discussion with her in the past.

It may sound a bit cruel, but I want this girl to realize that she's painfully missing out on me if she continues this way. What do I do?

I only had one GF I wanted to get back with, and this book called 'The Magic Of Making Up' helped me tons.