Hi Cran,

Normally in these cases I would say: forget about her, in a few months you will be over it. But seeing as it is a year since you broke up and you still cant move on... I think you should talk to her. But dont talk to her expecting her to jump into your arms, in fact it will be best if you completely get any hope of getting back together out of your head.

You probably keep imagining this discussion in your head over and over, so it will be better if you just get it over with. Tell her about your problems and how you cant get over her. She will probably just say that you fucked up and she has moved on... hopefully this will give you some closure and you will stop imagining hypothetical discussions.

Other than that time really is the only solution.

GL!

you thought way too much ... you got captured in your own patterns of dillusion and negative pictures.

don't call her ..... at this point it's even better to insult her.

stop thinking about you getting together .. and stop fucking other girls ....

stop regretting and stop thinking it's your fault.... maybe she moved on and fucked dozens of guy - maybe she already forgot you.

Don't fucking call her and tell her you can't get over her ... jezus .. cmon DOES SHE REALLY DESERVE such ego boost ?
i would call her and tell her to give me head instead.

WHY IN EARTH ARE you thinking about the previous relationship .. what a fucking waste of time , you only make it worse . what's even worse is that you grabbed other girls to get over her.

the fun thing is ... it's all in your head ... you subconciously choose to stick with negative memories , your giving more about her instead of yourself ... you didn't gave yourself a clean room ...

there is nothing wrong with going out ...... but there is something wrong with fucking other girls , it won't make you feel better like you mensioned.
don't stop gaming .... but next time when you are gaming insult girls .. neg the shit out them unleash your feelings to strangers instead of your new GF.

you was too cocky ... dude ... your are fucked up .. so is 99,9 % of all the people on this planet. Your human like anyone else ... and a relationship always comes from 2 sides ... it can't be like one person fucking it up.
some girls love cocky guys ... and some girls just hate it - she didn't like it so it's her fault for not liking it.

calling her make things worse ... you are alread worrying about mistakes you made etc ... you still think youre in love but your not. If you call her and she tells you she's fucking another guy you would go crazy - take it from me.

you broke up ...... it's done , learn from your mistakes and take a potential new relationship to a higher level. If you really love her you leave her alone and let her go , i'l bet she even wants you to let go so you can move on.

It's your ego man .... you aren't in love with her .. you aren't wishing her the best because you think you need her. you are already keeping her prisoner in your mind. free her and yourself.

there is no such thing as a perfect girl of wife .... she isn't perfect .. there are people who would be better than her. you even fucked her friend... you don't love her.

i think you are depressed and you are searching for an explanation ..... there's something else going on
only 2 fucking months dude ... STFU and get over it ...... you cheated and lost feelings for her. If you got back together it will probably happen again.

by the way you are a complete jerk .... cheating .. i mean wtf.. do you even dare to contact her again ... if you got fucknig respect you stop thinking about her and contacting her. and if you can't live with the feelings of guilt .... sooner or later you will die guilty or not guilty. How about you stop whining and make the best of your life.
no sorry man ... this isn't one itis ... im afraid this is ; compulsive obsessive behaviour - i really recommend a therapist or someone else you can talk to.

no matter how bad we feel ... we are more than our emotions but often we think we are only our emotions that's why we can't handle them.... alot of people commit suicide because of this, it's sad ... you don't have to live a bad life when you can feel good.

find a solution ... commit to buddhisme or something.

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I partly agree with Lodewijkp. However, not completely. If you do NOT talk to her - you will live your whole life thinking "what would have happened if I infact DID talk to her?".

I say: Talk to her as soon as you feel ready.

BUT BUT BUT......... If she rejects you and nothing happens (no progress that is) - then do what Lodewijkp said.

Then you will have your answer, and you can start healing and letting go - for good. What ever happens - it's a win win situation.

1. You talk to her and FAIL: You got your question answered and you can start to move on and forget about her.

2. You talk to her and WIN: She becomes your girlfriend and you can live happily ever after.. yaay...

However:

1. You DON'T talk to her: You will never get your question and feelings answered. The curiosity will kill you slowly inside.

2. There is no number 2.


The choice is yours.

UR FUCKED UP.

Anyway give her a call for god's sake. So u dont bug urself anymore