Okay, I didn't really know where I should have posted this, so sorry if this is the wrong section.

So Basically my situation is I've been into this girl first the first day I met her. I met her through one of my best buds who actually introduce me to PUA. The thing is.. this girl is my best bud's sister. They're pretty protective of their little sister.. but anyways, when I first started talking to her was when she was a freshmen in high school. We talked everything single day 24/7, walk her to class, and she was digging me back the way I was digging her (this was before I was introduced into the game). Little did I know I was a natural gamer, and I didn't even know I was doing it.

She we slowly stopped talking when I started to game. With me learning new ways to talk to other girls, it never seem to work for her. It seems like now I always tense up and I never know what to say, I'm always nervous, this usually isn't like me. Lately it seems like when we're in the room together, she wants to talk to me, and everytime I suggest going somewhere with the guys she always wants to tag along, or when someone else says something, she doesnt wanna go until I say i'd go. But her attitude is like shes scared of me, then somedays it's like shes no interested, and then her friends say, she doesnt like you like that, she sees you as a brother. I have a million things running through my mind and getting mixed signs. I use to be so positive now I'm always doubting myself.


I'm Definately more of a AFC then a Alfa male like I use to be. I just want get back to where I was, and get her to dig me again. Its been 4 years, and I can't get her off my mind.

Suggestions? Thoughts? Hate comments to make me feel like more of an idiot for writing this that probably doesn't make any sense?

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Mister Chill

This is one-itis.

BUT, I will offer whatever help I can, and I'm sure other people here will.

First, it seems like she started to drop off on talking because all of a sudden you didn't seem the chilled563 you normally are. She knows you and picked up on the "strange/different behaviour you picked up after learning the game. She still into you (thats why she's always tagging along) but I'm not sure whether its as a friend or something more.

Elaborate on more of these "mixed signals" she gives you. Need more details.

Your confidence def. needs to go up. You choke up around a chick that you're usually comfortable with. Which makes sense, because you probably care for her and her opinions of you.

well I guess not mixed signs, i don't know how to say/explain it. It seems like one day we can be talking and laughing then the next day it just drops and and she ignores me. I'm not sure if I'm coming off or moving too fast.. we started to talk like when we did when were into each other and I think I pushed it by doing things like saying good morning beautiful have a wonderful day, like I useto.. sheuse to like it..

I got a huge list

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i noticed this too ... it sharder for me to talk to girls i see on a regular basis after getting into the game..... dare i saw it , ... stop gaming and be with her if u like her, cuz u know shell be there for you.... just the families permission after mentioning it to her, if theyre that protective....thats what i would do if there was a girl i liked , that liekd me back..... after a while ur nervousness will go away...

/ tell her how you feel, very basic, yet effective...

well now lately since shes being a little bitchhhh, i can't really take it anymore, she likes some other guy now, whatever, whats the mode-o u gotta have? something like u think you are the shit or something? like your the prize, and the life of the party? fuckkkkk time to game other girls..

my next question, how should i get pass the whole fact of me being nervous when she's around, like.. get my mind off the fact that she's there?
something just popped into my mind, if when i see her next i'd walk in with a smile on my face not look at her first talk to some other girl first, when i know shes looking at me look over at her and smile and walk over to her and say,...

"heyyy! hows it going..!? i see your looking short as always...blah blah blah blah blah blah..." for a few mins when it gets good, just be like...

"hey hold that thought, ill be right back" then go talk to the first person i was talking to...

what you guys think on how i should do that if it were to happen?

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you said someytihng about how you wre glancing at her and she as glancing at you.... the best way to deal wiht it is don glance at her..... dont give off anytihng that indicates u have acknowledged her..... that worked for me in my specific situation.... there was this girl, we made out at a party... she said we'd chill at lunch ......so i tohguht ok fine , im in...she ditches me on valentine day..with the lamest excuse ive ever heard..... so i see her at my friends bday party..... TOTALLY ignore her, she is a bitch, and i can say that not as a derrogatory ( how ever u spell it) term for a woman , but becasue she was a bitch, who ditches someone like that on valentines day.......anyway....i see her at the party, but i also see another, cuter girl there... so i started talking to her, the 2 girls were sitting side by side, the cute one and the bitch .... i sit right between them start talking to the cute one... then th e other one starts poking me, playing wiht my hair trying to get my attention...... i never gave it to her, got the cter girls number adn carried on with my life, but seeing as this girl was in involved in your life for longer than 1 month , u shouldnt just cut her off, like i siad , tell her how u feel and shit and if that doesnt work then ..... carry on, i dont know what else to say... i apologize for the spelling errors im pissed off and couldnt care less about puncuation and speeling

you said someytihng about how you wre glancing at her and she as glancing at you.... the best way to deal wiht it is don glance at her..... dont give off anytihng that indicates u have acknowledged her..... that worked for me in my specific situation.... there was this girl, we made out at a party... she said we'd chill at lunch ......so i tohguht ok fine , im in...she ditches me on valentine day..with the lamest excuse ive ever heard..... so i see her at my friends bday party..... TOTALLY ignore her, she is a bitch, and i can say that not as a derrogatory ( how ever u spell it) term for a woman , but becasue she was a bitch, who ditches someone like that on valentines day.......anyway....i see her at the party, but i also see another, cuter girl there... so i started talking to her, the 2 girls were sitting side by side, the cute one and the bitch .... i sit right between them start talking to the cute one... then th e other one starts poking me, playing wiht my hair trying to get my attention...... i never gave it to her, got the cter girls number adn carried on with my life, but seeing as this girl was in involved in your life for longer than 1 month , u shouldnt just cut her off, like i siad , tell her how u feel and shit and if that doesnt work then ..... carry on, i dont know what else to say... i apologize for the spelling errors im pissed off and couldnt care less about puncuation and speeling

There is moving on to other women, and then there is being a dick and then moving on. Keep her as a friend, she could be an awesome pivot later. You don't have to ignore her man. Continue your game, keep a friend. Two positives>>One

alright so this is whats going on..
in my first post it was something dealing with this girl i've liked for four years..

that was in high school and my senior year i had a girlfriend... so i kinda put the PUA aside, two years later my girlfriend broke up with but anyways the other girl's still in high school..

but i think my deal is even after me being done with high school and then going to a Technical College with mostly guys for automotive really hasn't changed at all..
that attitude in high school was something like I don't care , im the class clown, get out of my way i'm gonna get any girl i want, etc. etc. etc...
the way i acted was immature in a goofy ways and embrass myself to get a laugh, and with young high school girls.. it made them laugh

i've been out there typing to game some of these college girls, and its not working for me at all, even some of the girls i went to high school with that were like a couple years younger then i was, they mature a lot...
and this goes back to when im gaming my bestfriends little sister the girl i like..
definately can't do a lot of the things i use to

i've noticed when im just talking to her regularly when im tired she'll talk..

i'm slowly studying what i'm doing wrong and fixing it
basicly what im trying to say is... im stumped, and don't know what i need to change to step up my game with the way
and keep me from saying something stupid or acting stupid like i did in high school
what you fellas think i need to do.. or think about when it comes to... me stepping my maturity level?

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