having suffered many times from oneitis im something of an expert on it---one thing ive found that it often comes full circle-but it takes it time and when it does you dont want that one anymore.

kinda goes like this you obsess about the one for a couple of months fantacizing about how perfect your life would be if this girl was with you and loved you back

After awhile you eventually realise that you are never going to be there and for another while you feel almost bitter towards the target and resentful--why not me--why him bla bla bla

Then eventually with the passage of time you stop thinking about her altogether--stop caring who she might be with or whats shes at---and a strange emotion which is like an extreme indifference takes over--its going beyond dislike ,jealousy--you really and trully dont care about her

Anyway with me when this usually happens it is about a year after it all started she will be with a new boyfriend and she will have a shit eaten grin on her face more than likely having told amog that you really like her--she says hi to you in a way that tells you that she is acknowledging you but doesnt want any further conversation----

i say hi because i feel that to not would seem like you were a sour loser--the 2 will then usually go off and occasionally glance at you to see if you are looking over all heartbroken---but here is the thing----you suddenly realise you dont feel anything for her what soever---you dont care and really couldnt be bothered talking to her or looking at her.

the two of them pick up on this and are almost disappointed you arent jealous--especially HIM.

a few weeks go by

then you pass her in the street and exchange hi's with her--but you subtely pick up that shes actually more interested in you than the other way
because your obsession is in the grave gone for ever

what im getting at is with the fullness of time does oneitis always come full circle--have the rest of you had this---is it just her not liking losing control of the situation

yeah, it can be a problem. I've had it myself. You need to tell yourself she's not worth it - fate won't allow it - its just not meant to be. That can be easier said than done though...

The time to get over it can vary, especially if you have little in your life to occupy you.

Once your past the point of no return - you rarely return. Especially since you know what they are like.

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