| Too many guys get frustrated when things don't go their way and fall back to habitual actions that are driven by negative emotions. In my mind, this occurs primarily because like the OP, you don't think you have the correct answer for a particular situation. When this occurs, we slide down that chain of confusion - fear - anger - physical demonstration of anger. . .
Well, showing your anger is seldom the formula for to create attraction. And "negging", at least in the way MM defines it, has NOTHING to do with outlet of negative emotions.
If you have the gift of the gab, you can squirrel your way through every situation but how many of us possess this talent? So, instead of reading a 1,000 books on the art of conversation, SIMPLIFY.
Turn every situation into one situation. Understand that a girl telling you, "Wow, that guy is gorgeous", is no different than, "You're kinda short", "You're not my type", etc . . . Of course you can't offer the same reply for each one of these statements but you CAN offer the same style of answer. I'm sure the more experienced guys have their own styles but I have lots of fun with the "Yes Man".
AGREE with EVERYTHING. . . This isn't to be confused with "agree with everything". I mean AGREE WITH IT. Take it over the top. Let's she what's she's made of . . . Call her on her little bluff to show you her cards.
So . . . she goes, "Wow, that guy is gorgeous" and you go, "Who, where . . . oh . . . yeah . . . he's a good looking guy . . . come on, let's go meet him. I'll introduce you." And before she has a chance to get ready or even understand what's going on, you just grab her by the wrist and start walking in that guy's direction. Here's how it plays out:
1. She pulls back and you go, "Oh . . . you chicken, pwak, pwak, pwak. . . Come on, you'd make a good couple." (And guess what, her nerves now start getting the best of her. Believe me, girls get approach anxiety just as much as guys do . . .and now you're just rubbing it in.) Then you shift gears to your own agenda, "Oh . . . look how cute you look when you blush. So adorable . . .(give her a smooch) What you're doing is diverting her heightened emotions towards attraction for you . . .
2. She weakly follows you to the guy and you tell him, "Hey, what's up. Nice to meet you man, my name is _______. This is ______. Then you lean in a bit and tell him, "She's been eyeballing you for a while now, I think she's got a little crush on you . . ." Loud enough so that the girl can hear you. Basically, you say all the things that sound like you're setting them up but you're actually "cock blocking" the girl.
Two things might occur. Usually, an attractive guy wants a challenge. A girl from a bar being introduced by a "guy friend" is no challenge and looks it like a dorky set-up date situation to his friends. Secondly, the girl is put on the spot will feel nervous regardless of whether the guy shows interest or not. Then you just leave the two to chat and have a ball. . . "Have fun kids!" Unless this is the end of the night when all the lonely people are scavenging for their lays for the night, the girl will come back to you.
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