Hey PUAs I need your help,

I know this question has been asked millions of times but I've got my own little situation here.

Recently I have been overlooking the problems I'm facing in pickup and am just being overwhelmed by the complete lack of success and advancement I am having. I hit a dry spell but if I focus on my problems I should be able to fix them.

Approach Anxiety!

The classic. I've got this pretty bad at the moment...
Last November (2009 that is) I started the Stylelife Challenge, and got to day 4 but couldn't bring up the courage to ask random girls advice on where to shop. I haven't restarted it since, but that was when I was least afraid of approaching girls. I had no problem with approaching a girl with a canned opener or something natural.
For some reason I have lost that. Recently I have been feeling kind of depressed and it is really affecting my game (my lack of game is also kind of a cause of it) and I don't approach people as much. I often feel inadequate, that the people will just reject me, or I just convince myself that I'll do it later, or I'm too tired to approach. Stuff like that.
This is obviously all complete bullshit and its me being a pussy. But today I brought up the guts to talk to these girls (who I used to talk to all the time and actually hooked up with one of them). It was just weird and I was really socially awkward. I was basically ashamed when I walked away.

I don't want this to drag on too long, you guys don't wanna be reading a novel right now. Here's a sum up of all my troubles with pick up:

1. Fear to approach
2. Social awkwardness / uncomfortable conversations (caused by 3)
3. Introverted / stuck in my head (I think too much about what to say next)
4. Fear of escalation (this is going away but still there)

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BRO!!!! I'm ready the same book "Rules of the game" and I'm stuck on day 9. I'm going through the same thing but even worse becuase of the canned material. I'm more of a natural gamer and the canned stuff is f'n me up a lttle. I can def see the benefit becuase it gives you ideas to open. What helped me a little is asking a genuine opinion. For instance, I was in Target and I was thinking of switching deoderants. An attractive female was in the isle and I asked for a female opinion on which one she liked better. I didnt try to close, just talk, no pressure. Then I noticed she git in the same line right behind me to check out. Try to think of some questions you really want an opinion to.

On a separate note...

You're not a pussy because you have AA. They actually had girls in the feild one time to the same thing to other girls we are doing and they had AA too. Imagine that.Iit's hard to approach ANYONE for a motive, not just women. Remember the worst that will happen is rejection and thats just an opportunity for new info.

Why does it seem so easy for smokers to bum lights and cigarettes from other smokers?

Figure this out and ACCEPT it. It exists in all of us.

Here's a funny little story: While trying to "figure this out" long ago, I asked a girl next to me at a club(back when smoking in clubs were cool) to bum me a cigarette. Her answer with a BIG FUCKING SMILE, "No Doubt!!

So a few minutes later, I ask for another, "OK!"

So a few minutes later, I ask for another, ". . .." (But she STILL hands me the cigarette)

So a few minutes later, I ask for my FOURTH cigarette, and she gave me the dirtiest fucking look as she whipped her hand bag around her body and away from me first. Then she flipped her face away, never to look in my direction again.

I don't smoke.

He he! Kasabi! Good one.

Anyways. Beating AA is a choice!

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Read that one Sharplin.

Hey Sharplin,2 ways that I'd beat the crap out of my social awkwardness.

1)I used to(and still)enter the club(or any venue)and stand right in the spot light or the most focused area where Im sure to be seen,watched and scrutinized. I felt weird,awkward and wanted to run and hide but I fought it!! I had a cocctail in hand(of course held low at side)and every second,I would unconsciously raise the drink as to guard myself(beta male)then I'd say to myself,"Fucc,lower the damn drink"!I forced myself to smile.After a while,I became comfortable doing this. I put myself in the danger zone in order to kill the social awkwardness.So instead of hiding off in a dim corner of a venue,I put myself on front street! When I go in a fast-food restaurant,I enter the livest line,the closest line to the entrance.

2nd.)I got rid of AA and social awkwardness by forcing myself to say hi to everyone I see and pass while walking,driving,etc. Old ladies,UG(ugly girls),bbws,HB2s,little kids. I chatted up with everyone!! Days that I felt F'd up and I still greeted everyone!Nowadays,it means nothing to chat up an HB10.

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