Call me a wuss a 100 times... I know I slipped for a while, but I want to see what any of you would do in my situation to win a girl back....really just because I want to mess with her a bit and I really did connect with her....I thought.
I have just started reading the Intro to NLP and was thinking of using that but want your advice.

I had an affair with a gal for about 2 yrs. We were all friends, lived in the same hood and something connected us on a work trip. We fought it because as couples we all hung out, but we continually connected on email and made a big sexual connection as we were both missing a lot of the same things. So I turned 40. Had a party to celebrate. Got caught with her in the closet by my soon to be ex wife.
Good thing thats all they caught me doing as we had a game going.

That sparked her getting a divorce and we didn't talk for 2 months. Then we connected again... still nervous of divorce issues, but we met more, talked more start fucking it was getting hot...very hot. Well I finally decided I needed a divorce and the very day I told my wife I needed a divorce (she had not kicked me out of the house believe it or not) my side bitch flipped a switch and went the other way. Fuck.

We went from emailing 30 times a daymaking out in a coffee shop that very week to nothing. She is under huge pressure with her divorce, atty told her to chill but now she wont flirt. She wont talk on the phone. She will respond to 'normal' boring texts. And she will on occasion show signs of life, but not much. and not making enough to pay the bills.

So I lost the upper hand...the status.
I need a plan of how to get the control back and the status?
Step by step.
Start me with winning control by texting. Hopefully leading to getting her back on the phone or meet so I can NLP or something?
Who's got ideas? Plans? Help!